‘I don’t want my husband to walk his sister down the aisle – it should be her dad’

The woman had an issue with her husband wanting to walk his sister down the aisle, saying it should be her dad that did it – but people were furious, calling her unfair

woman getting married
The woman kicked up a fuss because she didn’t want her husband walking his sister down the aisle (Stock Image)

When you get married, you have an idea about how you want the day to look – from what style you want the dress to be to who you want to walk you down the aisle. You may want to stick to traditional vows, or you may want to rip up the rulebook and write your own. Whatever you want, it’s personal to you, and usually, those closest to you are completely understanding about what you want.

One woman though caused quite a stir after saying that she didn’t want her husband to walk his sister down the aisle on her wedding day because she believed that it should be their dad doing it – despite the fact she knew they had a strained relationship. She took to Reddit’s ‘Am I the a**hole’ forum to ask whether people thought she was in the wrong.







The woman believed her sister-in-law should be walked down the aisle by her dad (Stock Image)
(

Image:

Getty Images)

She wrote: “My husband, Mike (37) is the eldest in his family. He’s pretty close with his sister Beth, (28) and they spend almost all week together. Beth had issues with her father growing up. She went no contact with him after he took her first car and damaged it. She only remained in contact with Mike since everybody else judged her for going no contact.

“She’s getting married to her fiance of three years. From what I understand, she and her dad are slowly getting reconciled, but she made it clear she wants him to take no part in the wedding. She asked Mike if he could walk her down the aisle and he agreed.

“I have to say that I was taken aback and it felt a bit odd for me because, her dad is alive, they’re on speaking terms again, and he’s going to be there at the wedding so the logical thing to do is have him walk her down the aisle. This role isn’t for her older brother but for her father. Not to mention how the father-in-law will feel about it.

“I brought this up with Beth and she had an attitude and implied that I was just saying this and objecting because of how I feel about the situation not how our traditions should be practiced. We got into an argument and I went home.

“Mike thinks I’m being unreasonable and possibly causing him to miss something so sentimental and that if anything, he feels honored to be asked to do this for her, and said that I should stop worrying about what others might say.

“Now we’re having this conflict (three of us) and can not seem to reach a solution.”

People were quick to point out that the woman wasn’t being very fair and shouldn’t have interfered in the situation.

One wrote: “There was no conflict except for YOUR (unwanted) opinion. Beth wants Mike to walk her down the aisle. Mike wants to walk Beth down the aisle Mike’s wife thinks he shouldn’t, sticks her nose into his business, insists upon it, objects to it, creates a conflict because of her own opinions about years-long issues she hasn’t been around for, and then posts.

“Original poster, during your entire typing and proofing of this post, did you not see that you’ve butted into someone else’s affairs? Was there no glimmer of ‘Beth should be able to choose whomever she wants’ or ‘Mike and Beth know this situation best?’

“I’m more concerned that this isn’t the first time you’ve done this (argued a point rather than listened to the other side), and if I were you I’d apologise and offer your (non-judgemental) support. If I were Mike I’d be second-guessing my marriage.”

Someone asked whether jealousy played a factor in the fact the woman took an issue with her husband walking his sister down the aisle.

They wrote: “Are you…jealous of your sister in law? What is wrong with you? You’re the only person that takes issue with this, and yours is the opinion that was neither wanted nor sought. You need to back off, or just go be miserable somewhere else. You’re the a**hole.”

Another said: “This is so odd, she seems to think she has an equal say in a situation that has nothing to do with her. The only impasse here is that Mike and Beth are trying to figure out how to politely tell her to f*** off.”

“This is way out of your lane, it’s none of your business, and no one is remotely interested in your nonsense. Why do you honestly care who she wants to walk her down the aisle? Do you have a problem with his sister?”, one fumed.

Do you think the woman’s husband is in the wrong for wanting to walk his sister down the aisle? Let us know in the comments.

Read More

Read More

Read More

Read More

Read More

Facebook Comments Box

Hits: 0