A bride has confessed she’s ‘dreading’ her wedding because she doesn’t have any friends to be her bridesmaids – while her fiancé is struggling to choose which mates to make groomsmen
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Weddings are meant to be exciting, and the build-up is often a time of celebration and fun with friends and family.
Robes with bride-to-be and ‘bride tribe’ on the back in diamantes have become commonplace on our Insta feeds, so it’s no wonder we’re constantly comparing our big day to others.
But what happens if you don’t feel like you have anyone to celebrate with though?
One bride-to-be has admitted she is filled with dread about her big day after saying she has ‘no friends’ she would want as her bridesmaids.
The bride, known only as Jennifer, posted on the wedding website Hitched to say she doesn’t feel she has close enough female friends to ask them to be her bridesmaids and asked others if this was normal.
The 30-year-old from Essex said she had always imagined having a ‘girl gang’ to celebrate her wedding day with – but she’s drifted from her female friends.
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Commenters responded to assure Jennifer that, despite tradition, they weren’t planning on having lots of bridesmaids, and urged her not to feel pressured by Hollywood clichés about what weddings should be like.
Jennifer wrote: “I always imagined myself to have one of those weddings surrounded by a girl gang that had known me forever and dancing the night away surrounded by my pals.
“I used to have friends but we drifted years and years ago when I moved down south and I don’t seem to have had much luck when it comes to making new ones – although certainly not for a lack of trying.”
According to the lonely bride, her partner isn’t having anywhere near as much trouble picking out people to celebrate the day with him.
She wrote: “My boyfriend has an army of groomsmen, he’s even struggling to make a decision on the final cut.
“I just feel like it’s going to be so embarrassing on the day.”
While the bride says she is doing a good job of hiding her anxiety from her family and her husband-to-be, she added there will be no escaping the reality on the wedding day that she is a ‘Billy no-mates.’
She said the issue is causing her so much stress she would prefer to elope with her fiancé, but the popular groom-to-be doesn’t want to.
Describing herself as a ‘saddo’ Jennifer asked others if ‘wedding loneliness’ was a normal experience to have and if it ruined other brides’ big days.
She also joked she was in the market for ‘Essex-based bridesmaids.’
Hordes of women responded saying they were in the same boat and understood what she was going through.
One bride, called Emily, reassured Jennifer that she wasn’t having any bridesmaids either and was opting for a more understated ceremony.
She wrote: “I don’t really have any close girlfriends. Also, the idea of an OTT hen do is my idea of hell!
“My sister who got married last year didn’t have bridesmaids either. I’m quite relieved she didn’t make me wear a fluffy pink number!”
Another bride-to-be said she was in a ‘similar position’ and was planning to have a relaxed morning on her wedding day with her sister.
She wrote: “I feel like weddings get romanticised in movies and reality TV and it can make people anxious (myself included) about not having a wedding that fits into the stereotypes.”
A different woman, who is also based in Essex, added that she had chosen a couple of bridesmaids but her party was nowhere near as big as her partner’s was set to be.
She posted: “I feel in a similar boat with only really one best gal friend and my twin sister and small family in comparison to my groom’s army of groomsmen, two best men a giant family and extended friend group.
“I’m just owning it and saying quality over quantity!”
She also advised Jennifer to consider asking her grandmothers to be bridesmaids if they are still around.
Someone else suggested: “Maybe your husband can also not have any groomsmen or just have a best man to fit in with what you decide.”
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