A mum and daughter are trying to improve their relationship after the teen’s grandparents raised her, but one forgetful mistake has pushed the mother over the edge and she’s considering banning her child from the house
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Relationships between a mother and daughter always have their ups and downs, particularly when your child hits their teenage years. Arguments can spark from teens not doing their chores, leaving mess around the house or forgetting to run an errand they’d promised to do, but young people often claim that their parents are always nagging them to complete tasks around the house.
One mum has taken these disagreements to the next level by considering to kick her daughter out of the house as she continuously leaves appliances on despite being asked not to. The parent’s reaction has caused quite a stir online, as many people are criticising the mum for having such a strong reaction to the teen’s mistakes.
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Taking to Reddit to ask whether her frustrations are valid, the mum explained that her relationship with her daughter is far from conventional, as the teen sees her mum as more of ‘a sister’ after being raised by her grandparents.
The mum explained: “My parents felt I was too young to and too broke to raise her so they raised her. They took on the roles of her parents and her father has never been in the picture so I was grateful and although she knows I’m her mother, she sees me as a sister”.
Despite trying to form a closer bond, the pair have been at loggerheads over the teen’s habit of leaving lights and electricals on in the house, as the Reddit poster reveals: “She’s a darling for the most part but she leaves every appliance she uses on. If she enters a room and turns on the lights, she will leave it on too.
“It’s quite irritating and I tried to talk to her about it. She laughed it off every time and told stories about her bad memory and what she forgot to turn off at so and so’s house. Part of me thinks she’s doing it to vex me”.
One mistake became the final straw for the mum, as the teen’s actions became a safety hazard – particularly as there are often children in the home.
The mum continued: “Yesterday, my daughter went out with friends and left the electric iron on and I only found out when my neighbor’s [sic] kid (F10) told me the iron is hot. Needless to say, I was furious.
“I went off on my daughter when she came back and reminded her that kids like to poke at sockets and the iron could have caused an injury.
“Besides, it’s a fire hazard. She said ok, sorry, and she would try to remember, only to leave it on again this morning.”
The daughter’s forgetful nature has led to her mum reconsidering her living arrangement, as she has mused over asking her to leave.
“The plan was to stay for two months and it’s only been two weeks but I’m reconsidering it. My friend thinks sending her back will blow up the only chance at bonding. So will I be the a****** if I sent her back to my parents and banned her from my house regardless?”
Reddit users didn’t take too kindly to the mum’s view and flooded to the comments section to criticise her for wanting to kick her daughter out.
One frustrated person wrote: “Going from ‘unplug the iron’ to ‘get out of my house’ is quite a leap. You now suddenly have your child in the house. At 16 she looks adult, but she is a kid. Childproof it. Have conversations with your child. Discuss what is a suitable reaction if she can’t remember to not put your place on fire”.
Another added: “LMAO I’m an adult almost 30 and still remind myself to turn oven and hair iron off. It’s not that I’m maliciously destructive or stupid, I just FORGET. It’s not about “knowing better” whatever tf [sic] that means.
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“If everyone ‘knew better’ from one mistake, everyone would be perfect and the world would have no mistakes or suffering. Come on now”.
Others sided with the mum, with one Reddit user saying: “Being forgetful is forgetting the light, because the switch is on the opposite side than you’re used to. How do you forget to turn off the iron?
“Do you just leave the ironing board and iron in the middle of the house and expect it to hide itself like it’s magical? She’s 16, not 3. If you pick a thing, use it and then put it back where it belongs. Toddlers learn that.”
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