When you think of child trafficking, what do you think of? Children in foreign countries being starved and beaten, tied up in dark, dingy basements, and only brought out when their “owner” has a “job” for them?
While there are certainly cases like the horrific one I just described, what you probably didn’t think of are children in the United States and North America being passed around by trusted adults, often their own family members. Melanie Cholish is a survivor of this, and she took to Facebook to educate people on the trafficking that is taking place right in front of their very eyes.
Melanie Cholish’s Child Trafficking Story
One day back in July, Melanie saw a poster that shows a young girl crying and tied up naked in what looks to be a basement. A shadowy figure stands ominously in the background. The poster reads:
“The real pandemic is child sex trafficking.” (1)
Having been a victim of child trafficking, she decided to write a post on her Facebook page telling her story, with the goal of educating people on the full scope of child trafficking in the states is. (1)
Trafficked By Her Own Father
Melanie was five or six years old the first time her father trafficked her off to someone, and he continued to do so until she was in her teens. Never was she hit, or yelled at, or taken anywhere against her will – she was a child, she trusted her father, and she had no way of knowing that what she was experiencing wasn’t right or normal. (1)
“I was never once tied up in a dark place such as this picture. It’s important for people to educate themselves on what trafficking can really look like.” she wrote in her post. (1)
Child Trafficking in Unassuming Situations
She goes on to describe how these transactions usually occurred. Often she and her father would go into an amusement park dressing room, where her father would tell her to wait. A couple of minutes later, a strange man would come in, acting like he was looking for his own daughter. She would then walk out holding his hand and often be given a treat, like an ice cream cone. No one ever expected a thing. (1)
Melanie goes on to describe other situations where her father passed her off to some “kind” stranger:
- Left by the pool on vacations, where a man would come and then the two would leave together for a while. (1)
- Airports where she was passed to another man and then later back to her father as if the stranger was her uncle. (1)
The point she wants to make is that all of these situations were completed right out in the open because they were relatively unsuspicious looking. (1) Unless there was a hypervigilant stranger watching, how was anyone to know?
The other point Melanie wants to make is that there aren’t typically signs of physical abuse for these children. Melanie was never hit, tied up, or beat up. She says that usually, they’re treated with fake kindness. (1)
“…they’re often praised, given treats, and made to feel like what is happening is good (and normal or because they’re special).” (1)
As well as being physically violated, she says one of the most damaging parts is what this “fake kindness” does to the victims’ ability to trust others later on in life. (1)
A “Normal” Life
Many of us reading her post are probably thinking the same thing: why didn’t she scream, run, or make a scene? We forget that they are children – while they may feel uneasy about it, they don’t know that it is wrong or that they are being violated. (1)
“Most children trafficked in the US are so conditioned they don’t know anything else. It’s their normal,” she writes. “There was no reason I knew to scream out for help. I wasn’t in danger; this was just my normal life.” (1)
Looking at Melanie’s family, you would not have suspected a thing either. Her father coached little league. Her mother, who knew of and even helped with these situations on occasion, was just a regular, small-town stay-at-home mom. By all accounts, the Cholish family was just a regular family. (1)
Child Sex Trafficking In America
According to UNICEF USA, child trafficking is defined as:
“the recruitment, coercion, transportation, transfer, harboring or receipt of children under the age of 18 for the purpose of exploitation. It is a violation of their rights and their well-being and denies them the opportunity to reach their full potential.” (2)
Though we may think of child trafficking as something that happens in other countries, the reality is that it happens every single day in the United States. According to Unicef (2):
- Child trafficking occurs in all 50 states
- 77% of trafficking victims are exploited in their country of residence
- Most trafficking victims in the United States are U.S. citizens
- 1 in 7 child “runaways” in America are likely victims of child trafficking
For most of us, these statistics are incomprehensible. How could someone do such a thing to anyone, and especially to a young child? Unfortunately, there is no real answer to that.
What You Can Do
Melanie says the best thing you can do is talk to and educate children, especially in the schools.
“We don’t need to be graphic; but teachers, schools, need to talk to children about things like this in a child-safe way. Assume these children aren’t being taken to doctors. Teachers can make a huge difference. Talk to children. Go with your gut. Schools need to not be scared to act on what they feel. Conrad Wesier had a social worker in the elementary school who pulled me out of class on more than one occasion after teachers noticed “things” and it went nowhere. Social services were never notified. And they should have been.” Melanie writes. (1)
She goes on to say that you, as a regular citizen, can be mindful when you’re out. Watch the other children, and if you see something that you find even slightly off, say something.
“If you’re waiting in line at a park, notice who goes in and out with what child. If you see something; speak up. If you’re wrong, fine you ruined someone’s day, apologize. If you’re right, you saved someone’s life.” (1)
Unicef also lists ways you can be a part of the solution on their website (2):
- Send an email to your local elected officials urging them to keep traffickers and trafficking victims top of mind
- Join UNICEF UNITE
- Become a monthly donor
- Spread the word by sharing this article or posting on your own social media accounts using the UNICEF USA Social Press Kit and the hashtag #EndTrafficking
Let’s fight to end child sex trafficking so that no one else has to have a story like Melanie’s.
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