‘My friends have a £25k wedding budget – but they want the guests to pay for it’

A wedding guest has been left baffled after they looked at the registry for the wedding and found that the couple only want cash – which will pay for the big day

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The bride and groom want their guests to pay their £25,000 budget (stock photo)

Weddings can get very expensive very quickly, and usually, the financial burden is placed on the families of the two people getting married – whether that be the couple themselves, their parents, or both.

But one wedding guest on Reddit has been left confused after they were sent the couple’s registry to find that they only wanted monetary donations and were denying any gifts.

The guest said the registry was split into funds for each vendor, the wedding dress, and even the honeymoon – coming to a staggering total of around $30,000 (£24,500).

With 125 guests on the list to attend the wedding, that would work out at each guest gifting $240 (£196) to the couple’s wedding fund so they can meet their hefty budget.







The budget works out at around £200 per person (stock photo)
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In the guest’s post, they said: “So an acquaintance is getting married and sent out their wedding website/registry. Now this person wants an over-the-top kind of wedding for their lifestyle. They don’t work, only their partner does, yet the cost of the wedding is about $30k right now.

“How do I know this? Their registry only has cash funds for every single vendor, a regular cash fund, and a honeymoon fund. They said absolutely no gifts, only contributions to the funds.

“Everything from the videographer, to the wedding dress, and even manicure and pedicure costs are on there.

“It’s supposed to be a guest count of 125 so I guess they expect everyone to contribute at least $240. Mind you, this is all a group of younger people that haven’t even finished college yet or have kids.”

Some commenters were equally baffled by the couple’s request, as many said they shouldn’t make guests feel as though they’re “funding” the whole wedding.

One person said: “Just call it your honeymoon fund and use it for whatever you want. The onus is still on the couple to budget properly. Just keep it tactful and don’t let guests feel they’re funding your special day.”

As another added: “Since this is only an acquaintance I think you should respond ‘unable to attend’ and pass on giving this entitled couple any money.”

But others could see the benefit of asking for cash instead of gifts – especially if it’s gifting for a couple who already has all the household items they want.

Someone said: “I know a couple who is asking guests for ‘funds’ but for experiences — like snorkelling on their honeymoon or a couples’ cooking class. I think it’s a great idea for people who have everything.”

While someone else wrote: “I might be in the minority on this one, but I don’t see the issue in asking for cash instead of gifts. However, making an obvious ‘I just want you to pay for all of my wedding’ is a little tacky.

“In short, I think there was a better way to do this, but the idea behind it I don’t think is terrible.”

And a third stated: “I’d rather have cash than get a bunch of stuff that I already have. Honestly, if I ever get married I will probably have a honeymoon fund where if guests want they can contribute money to the fund. If they don’t, no harm no foul, but I don’t want a casserole dish or a dozen fancy napkins.”

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