Bride fumes after being ‘upstaged’ by ‘pretty’ relative – but people take guest’s side

The newlywed confronted the woman who she believes “upstaged” her at her own wedding, but this resulted in an argument between the new wife and husband, who blasted his partner’s response

Every bride wants to be the centre of attention on their big day, or so some believe. Well, one woman who was upset when the attention drifted away from her has blasted the guest who “upstaged” her. And it is hard not to pity the bride, who claims she spent her evening fielding questions about the guest in question, who was even mentioned in the speeches.

But her response in turn caused a rift between herself and her new husband, as it was his stepsister that she confronted. Now, he expects her to apologise to his family, despite her being brought close to tears on their special day.

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However, what may initially sound outrageous is not as clear cut as it seems, as many people took the sister-in-law’s side, after they heard the bride’s version of events in full.

The newlywed shared her problem, and her upset at being upstaged by the “pretty” relative, in a post to Reddit’s “Am I the A*****e” forum.

She began by explaining that her partner, Matt, has a step-sister called Tiffany, who is “very attractive” and “pretty”. She added that Tiffany “dresses well and spends money on her appearance,” but clarified: “I don’t begrudge her this at all.”

However, she was not happy with the way other guests responded to Tiffany at her wedding. She explained: “The ceremony went fine, but afterwards, while my in laws were congratulating me, my FIL commented that I looked beautiful, and in the next breath mentioned Tiffany did, too. His wife caught his eye and shook her head, but I ignored it.

“When Tiffany came over to say congratulations, she looked stunning. Her dress was beautiful and fitted her perfectly, her hair and make up looked like they’d been done professionally, and she was wearing a pair of obviously designer shoes.

“Her outfit was totally appropriate for the event, but I was still weirdly upset by how she looked and immediately felt self conscious next to her. Even Matt told her she looked great, and they rarely talk.

“For the rest of the night, every single male guest at the wedding asked about Tiffany, who she was, how I know her, if she was single, etc. By the speeches, I was fed up and almost in tears, and even the best man mentioned her in his speech off the cuff. I let it go, went on my honeymoon, and tried to forget the whole thing.”

Her post went on: “We came back about a week ago, and this past weekend had dinner with my in laws. Tiffany was visiting, and we learned that she had got engaged. She showed us her comically large ring and said she was planning to have the wedding next year and that it would be a black tie event.

“Before I could stop myself, I jokingly said that I was pretty sure I’d already been to her wedding, I was the one in the white dress. She asked what I meant, and I thought there was no point in lying so I just admitted I felt she upstaged me at my wedding. She laughed and said you can’t upstage a bride. I asked if I could wear white to her wedding then and she shrugged and said ‘if you think it’ll help’. She then apologised if I felt her outfit was inappropriate.”

The woman concluded: “When we got home my husband blew up on me, saying I embarrassed him by being petty and jealous of Tiffany.

“He said he doesn’t even like her but even he knows she can’t do anything about what she looks like or the clothes she can afford, and I made myself look bitter and childish, and him by association. I admit it wasn’t my best moment, but I thought he would at least understand how I felt given that he heard everyone’s comments that night. He’s demanding I apologise to Tiffany and his parents but I don’t think I said anything that heinous. AITA?”

And people were quick to tell the bride they believed she had acted unfairly, even if they understood her frustrations on the day.

One person wrote: “I mean I get it, everyone was asking about her at your big day and that’s frustrating and it’s ok to feel frustrated at the PEOPLE DOING IT BUT how is that Tiffany’s fault?

“She was there for you guys. She didn’t wear a white dress. She wore something classy, shoes she liked, and looked as she likes to. It is not her fault and I find it crazy that OP is that jealous over Tiffany.”

Another agreed, asking: “Why are you blaming this woman for what other people have done?”

And someone pointed out: “You even said it yourself, her attire was appropriate for the occasion.”

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