Bride slammed for banning tall bridesmaid from wearing heels – as she’ll ruin photos

A bride-to-be has been criticised for her decision to ban one of her bridesmaids from wearing heels – as she believes the woman is too tall and will look out of place

For many brides, it’s important for them to have their bridesmaids looking uniform, usually with the same (or very similar) dresses, shoes, and accessories. But one bride has said she specifically wants one of her bridesmaids to break away from the outfits the others will be wearing – as she’s banned her from wearing heels.

The bride claimed the bridesmaid in question is around 5ft 11 and is by far the tallest member of the bridal party, so the woman wants to force her to wear flat shoes with her dress so that she doesn’t look out of place in her wedding photos.

In a post on Reddit, she said: “I am getting married next year. One of my best friends since childhood, Sophie, is a bridesmaid. Sophie is very tall for a girl, she is 179cm (between 5’10” and 5’11”). I am 168cm tall, and the other three bridesmaids are all either my height or shorter.

“Sophie has always been rather self-conscious of her height growing up because guys wouldn’t want to date her being so tall. But she was also able to be a runway model due to her height, and as she’s gotten older she has come to accept it. She still rarely wears heels when we go out though, as she doesn’t need the height and doesn’t want to be towering over everyone.

“At my last bridesmaid meeting we were discussing shoes, I said that I wanted all of us to wear heels (about 2-inch heels) except Sophie, who I wanted to wear flats. I thought she would be fine with it because she doesn’t like being the tallest. Instead, she said that her wearing flats will make her stand out more than if she was 10cm taller than us, and would make her look like she’s super self-conscious of her height when she’s not anymore.

“We are also wearing midi dresses so it will be obvious that she’s wearing flats. I understand that, but I also don’t want her being so much taller than us in photos.”

The bride admitted that her other bridesmaids also weren’t keen on banning Sophie from wearing heels, but she has said she will wear flats to make the bride happy – even though it would make her uncomfortable.

She added: “The other bridesmaids are torn – they think it will look funny [to have one bridesmaid in flats] but they also agree that I get the final say on what we wear.

“Ultimately Sophie said that she would wear flats if it’s that important to me but I know she’s not happy with it. So would I be the a**hole if I made her wear flats when she’d rather wear heels with everyone else?”

Commenters on the post were not happy with the bride’s decision, as many of them said that she shouldn’t care so much about how her photos will look, and should instead focus on making sure she and her friends are happy.

One person wrote: “You are caring more about how the photos will look if she’s taller than everyone else instead of taking her feelings into consideration. You are singling her out. That’s what makes you the a**hole as well as a Bridezilla.

“Do you really want to risk a long-standing friendship over something so shallow? Years from now, you will totally regret this if you do that to her. You’ll look at the wedding photos and feel remorse when it was supposed to be a happy day celebrating with your family and friends.”

While another said: “You know she is self-conscious about her height, being different from others. Yet you want her to wear flats so she would be different from others. She feels she is being singled out for something born with.”

And a third posted: “Don’t be a bridezilla. Whatever all bridesmaids wear, Sophie should wear it. She should not get discriminatory treatment.”

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