Husband reacts furiously after wife didn’t wake him up, and blames her for his lateness

A woman who says her marriage is more like living with a “roommate” claims her husband has blamed her for him being late to work, telling her she should have woken him up on time

A fed-up wife has claimed her husband has blamed her for a written warning he recently received at work after he turned up three hours late, having slept through his alarm. In her husband’s eyes, she should have woken him up on time. However, she had given him a nudge before going back to bed herself, only for him to tell her to “b***** off.”

The unnamed woman says their marriage of more than a decade “is in the toilet”, however, their financial situation means they can’t currently separate. She’s always been an early bird, while he’s the sort who “will leave to the airport 20 minutes before his flight leaves.”

Over their years together, she’s gotten used to waking him up when he sleeps through his alarm, which he will frequently do. However, she has stopped doing this in the last few months, on account of their ongoing marital issues.

On her days off, she’s been trying to leave him be to wake himself up without her help, which has previously resulted in him turning up to work late by an hour or even two hours.

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Things came to a head during a recent day off when she forgot to turn off her own alarm. As she was already up doing chores, she went to give him a nudge to tell him he was going to be late for work. He wasn’t interested in getting up.

Taking to Reddit, the exasperated spouse – who goes by the username u/2baverage – recalled: “He ended up arriving to work three hours late and came home with a final writeup. If he shows up late again or calls out without a doctor’s note or a really good excuse, then he’ll be fired.

“He blamed me for not waking him up in time and said that all the writeups were my fault too. I kind of flipped out on him but it came down to “If you don’t want to be my husband then I’m not going to treat you like one. So, you’re responsible for your own s***.”

As she’s had mixed reactions to the altercation from friends, she’s reached out to fellow Reddit users to ask their opinion on who exactly was in the wrong. The vast majority were on her side, with many urging her to rethink her current situation.

One person advised: “He’s a grown man. Even if you were in the best relationship ever, it should not be your responsibility to regularly wake him up. You are his wife, not his mother.”

Another commented: “It’s not your responsibility to wake him. He is a grown man. He needs to figure it out himself and take responsibility for his own actions. It’s not that hard if his alarm is next to the bed he needs to move it across the room or something that way he is forced to get up.

“None of us women get married to be their mothers, we want partners that know how to be adults that help in the relationship not cause more stress. Which seems to be what he’s doing.”

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