‘I bought a hamster for my kids and my husband demanded I get rid of it – I refuse’

A woman was left confused after her husband didn’t express any reason as to why he didn’t want his son to have a pet hamster – but he really wasn’t happy when he saw his son’s new furry friend

When your kids are little, it’s likely at some point that they’re going to ask for a pet. Based on your circumstances, you may agree, but what you agree to may differ greatly depending on the commitment level you can give to the animal – because we all know your five-year-old isn’t going to take a huge dog for walks twice a day.

You may agree to something small like a rabbit or a gerbil because they tend to be easier to look after, but one woman took to Mumsnet to express her horror when she purchased her son a hamster for his birthday – and all hell broke loose with her husband.

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She wrote: “My son’s birthday coming up and he’s been asking for a kitten. We’ve said no for various reasons.

“My husband leaves all the birthday planning (parties, presents, cake etc) to me. Same for Christmas. I generally do it all without his input and he thanks me on the day. This morning he called from work and I mentioned our son was talking about kittens again and that I might pop out and get a hamster.

“I’d mentioned it a couple of times in recent weeks. He did not object, didn’t even comment. It was a quick chat. I have popped out, bought hamster and he is set up at home. Sent my husband a picture and he’s gone apoplectic.

“He has demanded I get rid of it before kids see it. Absolutely doesn’t want it in house. Furious I did not consult him. His explanation is he hates hamsters.

“I have apologised saying i had no idea he felt like this and asked him to reconsider. I’ve let him know I can’t get rid of hamster today.

“It’s very cute and we can give it a happy home. My husband does not need to go near it. Kids love animals and are at the age where they can learn about taking responsibility etc…under my supervision. We can afford it so that’s not an issue. My son will have no present for his birthday tomorrow if my husband insists hamster goes.

“Am I being unreasonable for insisting hamster stays?”

Mumsnetters quickly pointed out that he had plenty of opportunity to listen to the plans and shut them down before the hamster had been bought.

One wrote: “More fool him for not listening. And no I wouldn’t be getting rid of the hamster.”

Another agreed, writing: “You mentioned it a few times and your husband was clearly not listening to you. I would keep the hamster and tell your husband that the very least he could do for all your efforts is it listen!”

“I would get rid of the husband not the hamster”, another quipped.

One Mumsnetter said: “What an overreaction to a tiny creature . Hamsters are gorgeous and he should stay.”

“I can’t abide hamsters but he had his opportunity to object I suppose, so he doesn’t have a leg to stand on”, someone added.

Would you get rid of the hamster or keep it? Let us know in the comments.