‘I can’t get over my husband’s don’t tell mummy comment – I’m fuming’

One woman’s daughter was experiencing stomach issues, so her mum had insisted on a gluten-free diet for the foreseeable – so she was fuming when her husband decided to give her cereal

Parenting should be a joint effort where both mum and dad are striving to make the best life for their children. Both parents should want their little ones to be happy and healthy no matter what, so when one woman heard her husband’s inappropriate comment to their daughter, she was furious that he could go behind her back in such a way.

She took to Mumsnet to explain that her husband was making her daughter some breakfast but heard her husband giving her some cereal – which she is not allowed as she is trying a gluten-free diet due to stomach problems she was facing at the time.

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She wrote: “I was lying in bed this morning (my husband was making my daughter’s breakfast, we alternate each day when we’re both off on holidays).

“My daughter is trying gluten-free as has bad stomach issues at present. I heard my husband giving her some cereal she’s not allowed, she knows she’s not allowed just at the moment and he knows.

“He said ‘Don’t tell mummy’ as he gave her some. Am I being unreasonable to be p***** off about this? Yes to the fact she can’t have gluten and it will mess up all I’m trying to do with her to make her better, but mainly to saying ‘Don’t tell mummy’. I don’t like it.”

People were horrified that her dad would keep secrets from her, especially when it’s for her daughter’s benefit.

One wrote: “The don’t tell mummy thing would p*** me right off. One of the main things I’ve taught my children is that if someone – anyone – tells you ‘don’t tell your mum or dad’ then the first thing you need to do is tell mum or dad.”

Another agreed, writing: “He sounds like a t***. I’d be having a conversation with your daughter about keeping secrets and why she can’t have the cereal now, how it is directly harmful for her to keep this secret from you.

“And it’d be strike one for the irresponsible idiot that is supposed to be the other adult in the relationship.”

Someone else commented: “‘Don’t tell mummy’? Err, what else is he going to try and get her to lie about. So you are bad cop, to his good cop? So disrespectful. F*** that – you need to nip this in the bud and speak to him.”

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