‘I had a baby eight weeks ago and my husband wants me to go to a wedding without her’

A new mum says she feels put under pressure by her husband to leave their eight-week-old baby behind while they attend a wedding, and she just doesn’t feel comfortable

A mum of a newborn baby has told how her husband is piling pressure on her to leave their child behind while they attend a wedding. Although everything has been going ‘fairly well’ since she gave birth eight weeks ago, the new mum says her baby has experienced reflux issues that are causing her some anxiety.

Currently she’s not ready to leave her with anybody except her mum – but she’s worried she may ‘freak out’ with the baby’s reflex issues Although her husband has the exact same fears, he’s now pressuring her to leave the baby behind so they can attend his cousin’s wedding.

Taking to Reddit, where she goes by the username u/Benjamin_F_Pierce, the worried mum explained: “To be honest, I hate weddings. I really don’t want to go. I don’t feel emotionally ready to leave her, and I won’t enjoy myself anyways. I know the stress of going will inevitably lead to me being a mess and most likely having multiple panic attacks.

“I still feel like a hormonal mess, I don’t even have anything that fits me to wear.

“He keeps acting like I’m somehow being irrational or crazy. I keep trying to explain the hormones that are still affecting me and that this anxiety is normal at this stage.

“I completely understand that, at some point, I will have to leave her. Once she has outgrown the reflux issues and is a little bit older, I have no issue leaving her. “

Unfortunately, her husband, who has been chosen as best man, just ‘won’t back down on this’ and she now feels as though she’s ‘in a lose-lose situation’. Although in some ways she feels as though the should just ‘suck it up’ and go, she also feels that it’s just too early, and that her husband is asking an awful lot of her.

One person advised: “Don’t blame it on the hormones or anything else – you don’t want to go then don’t go, simple. And you don’t have to! Stand your ground! If he isn’t willing to listen no amount of rationalizing will mean anything to him, put your foot down.”

Another commented: “Many cultures practice confinement for over three months after giving birth for a reason.

“It’s more important for you to heal and bond with your reflux-y baby right now than to attend this wedding. Your husband can go to the wedding alone. Anyone who gives you a hard time over this needs to get their heads on straight.”

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