‘I make my boyfriend pay for everything – I’m an investment and should be spoilt’

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Hannah Chan, 27, realised she wanted someone who could provide for her when she was finding herself on dates with non-assertive men who couldn’t take the lead.

A woman who describes herself as ” an investment ” and believes in being provided for lets her boyfriend pay for everything – while she treats him to smoothies and does the housework. Hannah Chan, 27, realised she wanted someone who could provide for her when she was finding herself on dates with non-assertive men who couldn’t take the lead.

As a career-driven woman, she realised that in a relationship she wanted someone who could “dominate” and provide for her. When fellow business owner Ed Reay, 22, reached out to her in May 2021 the pair hit it off and realised their values aligned. Ed, who is originally from Vancouver, Canada, flew to meet Hannah in July 2021 and after the couple became besotted, he moved to London, UK, in September 2021.

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Gradually as their relationship progressed, Ed started taking on more financial responsibility and now pays for all their dates, rent, bills and holidays.

Hannah, a business consultant, from Canary Wharf, London, said: “I started to realise that in a relationship I didn’t want to be the dominant one and I wanted someone who could provide for me.

“Before I had always viewed my business success and money I earnt as my value in dating, but I realised I didn’t want that.

“After meeting Ed, he told me he wanted to provide for me.

“We have a 100/100 relationship – he provides financially, and I give him 100 per cent when it comes to support and love and little things like bringing him a smoothie after a stressful day.

“There is no right and wrong in dating, the most important thing is that your values align between you and your partner for what you want in a relationship.”

Ed reached out to Hannah after seeing her on a client’s website in May 2021.

The pair instantly hit it off and he booked a flight two weeks later to come and visit her in London.

Hannah was quick to work out that Ed wanted to be a provider in a relationship – and that their values aligned.

“It naturally came up that he wanted to be someone who could provide,” she said.

“So, it was perfect.

“At the beginning, he would just pay for dates, and then he started paying for me to get my nails done and now he covers our rent and bills.

“My value comes from supporting him and balancing the masculine energy.”

Hannah is also responsible for managing the house, so that Ed doesn’t have to worry about it.

“I’ll sort the cleaner and do the cooking and food shopping,” she said.

“Ed doesn’t value money the most – he values being supported and cared for.

“But Ed makes most of our plans and now sorts and pays for our holidays.

“He thinks of me as an investment as I’ve supported him, and it’s meant he now makes three times what he used to earn.”

Hannah now realises that there is more to her than how much money she makes and has now found balance in working hard in business and still enjoying her life.

“I work about three hours a day because I still love what I do,” she said.

“I choose to work and in the past, I used to see being successful in my business as what defined me.

“Now it doesn’t, and I do it because I genuinely love it.

“Money shouldn’t be an indication of what someone brings to a relationship.

“Ed supports us financially, but I equally bring value to our relationship.

“It’s about what the money represents.

“There’s no right and wrong in dating and what you want in a relationship.

“Some want a 50/50 relationship, but Ed and I like the dynamic we have.

“It works for us.”

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Ed said: “Being a provider gives me a sense of responsibility and gives life meaning.

“I love being able to spoil someone I love, but you don’t need to have lots of money to do that.

“In our relationship, I see it as the man’s job to provide the house and the woman’s to make the home.

“Hannah is amazing at encouraging me on my goals and keeps me on track to making me a better person.

“She pushes me to give us the kind of life we both want.”

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