‘I’m starting to hate my husband – he ignores our screaming baby yet moans he’s tired’

The husband will hide upstairs when he hears the baby crying and will leave everything to the mum who has had enough of him not pulling his weight

A new mum is fuming with her husband as he leaves all the baby caring to her and has even resorted to waiting for the baby to stop crying rather than care for the two-month-old himself.

The new mum is getting tired of her husband’s laziness and says she is starting to resent him for doing nothing when he can hear his child in distress as he avoids the difficult parts of parenting.

The woman, who remained anonymous, took to Reddit to say she thought her resentment came as a result of giving birth and all the challenges this brings, but now she realises the problem really is with him.

In the post, she explained: “At first I thought it was just normal resentment for how much my life and body have changed since becoming a mother.

“Some of it was/ is but after dealing with a screaming, crying overtired two-month- old for 15 minutes by myself while he hides upstairs hearing everything… I truly hate him.”

The new mum went onto explain she might be able to forgive him if this was a one time occurrence but as this happens a lot she dislikes him even more.

She explained: “He constantly avoids the difficult parts of parenting and only swoops in for the fun parts. Leaving me to deal with all the sleepless nights and headaches.

“He’s even told me that he doesn’t know what to do in certain situations but does he try to figure it out? Of course not he just leaves it to me.

“For example he told me he sometimes procrastinates taking care of her because he thinks ‘she’ll just stop crying’.”

On top of all this he consistently complains about being tired and this leaves the mum particularly wound up.

“When he’s not trying to neglect his parenting duties he’s constantly complaining about how tired he is, leaving no room for me to be tired or even have a moment to complain about a sleepless night,” explained the mum.

“At this point I think I’d prefer single motherhood.”

In response, many have been quick to support the mum as one person wrote: “He needs to understand you both are tired. And you are working too.”

While another stated: “Sounds like he may need help learning how to calm your child down.”

And a third penned: “I feel like some dads feel if they don’t step up they know the mother will. As for the mother feels like she has no choice. The issue is he needs to feel like he has to take care of his child too. It shouldn’t be a choice.”

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