Man heartbroken as ‘shallow’ girlfriend is embarrassed to take pictures with him

A man has been left feeling confused after his girlfriend told him she won’t post pictures of him on her Instagram account – but people have said she is ‘shallow’

For some people, the pictures they post on their social media accounts are specifically curated images that put them in the best light and make their lives seem perfect. And while you’re free to run your Instagram however you see fit, you should take care to make sure you don’t ruin any real-life relationships over your online image.

That’s exactly the position one man has found himself in after his girlfriend told him he was “un-Instagrammable” – meaning she didn’t think he was good-looking enough to post pictures of. To make matters worse, the man said his girlfriend has been posting pictures of herself with other blokes on Instagram instead.

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And while the woman claimed she still “loves” her current boyfriend, she told him that as far as her Instagram followers are concerned she is dating someone else – because he’s the type of bloke she wants to “visibly” be with.

Taking to Mumsnet to ask for advice, the man said: “My girlfriend says I’m un-Instagrammable. I’m in my 30s and we’ve been dating since a year before the pandemic happened. We both [said we had a connection] from day one, and neither of us had experienced this so soon before or to this extent.

“However, our lives are different – she is very visual and I’m not so much. Even if I spent everything on operations I’d still be minging, which left me feeling out of place.

“I still love her and she says she loves me, her closest friends know about us but her wider circle doesn’t. Before she told me that I was un-Instagrammable, she posted [a picture of ‘her and her boyfriend’] which wasn’t of me, it was some other bloke.

“What it boils down to is that she wants him visibly in her life, and I’m there for love.

“I still love her I still feel like my heart is locked onto her and hers me. I haven’t been shattered by it because I feel she still loves me but she’s doing this.

“I don’t know what this means, we’ve talked about having a family and almost planned the whole thing without even thinking about it, it’s the only thing that’s made sense in my life and now I don’t know what it is.”

Commenters on the post were quick to tell the man he should re-evaluate his relationship with his girlfriend, with many of them calling her “shallow” for being too “embarrassed” to be seen with him on social media.

And others also encouraged the man to have more self-confidence in his own looks, regardless of what anyone else says.

One person said: “You deserve better than this shallow, self-centred woman. Dump her.”

While another added: “This is hideous, I literally hate how Instagram rules the lives of so many young people now. Get rid of her. She’s a horrible woman and she is NOT the love of your life, soul mate or anything else.”

And a third wrote: “First off I highly doubt you’re ‘minging’ and ‘ugly’, but I believe you likely don’t have a fake Instagram face. So stop saying those things about yourself. Even if they were truly, objectively true – which is nigh on impossible – stop saying them. You’re just putting yourself down under the guise of ‘being honest’. No need for that.

“And yes, dump her. Don’t do it mentioning her looks. Don’t go back to her if she says she’ll be proud of being with you. Simply don’t go back to someone who can treat you like this.”

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