Man offers to pay £8k toward sister’s wedding – but isn’t allowed to bring a plus one

A man has been left baffled after he told his parents he would give over £8,000 for his sister’s wedding – and she repayed him by banning him from bringing a plus one

A man with a history of sibling rivalry between him and his sister has claimed she won’t let him bring a plus one to her wedding – even though he offered to pay over £8,000 to help her fund it. The man, who posted his story online anonymously, said he and his sibling have always been at each other’s throats for various reasons, and haven’t communicated for some time.

When his parents asked him if he could contribute some money to her wedding, he agreed to put forward $10,000 (£8,236) but told them not to tell her where the money came from. However, his parents hoped telling her would help heal the siblings’ rift so spilt the beans anyway – but things didn’t go according to plan.

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In a post on Reddit, the 25-year-old man first explained the history of their rivalry, as he claimed: “My older sister is planning to get married in the winter. We’ve had a rocky relationship throughout our childhood. She always was the ‘golden child’ and was always the overachiever. I was only really naturally good at athletics in high school, and I had to work for everything in the classroom.

“She was naturally smarter and her grades were better than mine. I guess I was a little insecure because I had to work really hard for something that was natural for her. She constantly let me hear how she was better at school.

“We bickered a lot and my parents usually took her side. It was manageable until the big incident happened. When I was a junior and she was a senior, we were both in relationships. She was dating this questionable guy and my parents were against their relationship. I was dating this really sweet girl who my parents absolutely loved.

“My sister got jealous and started sending hateful messages to my girlfriend. Some of the messages included stuff like ‘he’s immature’ or ‘he’s going to cheat on you’. My girlfriend broke things off with me and it really messed with me. After that, my sister and I couldn’t talk without arguing.”

When the time came for his sister’s wedding, his parents asked him for some cash because they had been struggling to save enough themselves, and the man agreed as he knew they “felt guilty” about their own finances.

But after his sister found out, she told him she “doesn’t need his pity” and later told him that despite his contribution, he wouldn’t be allowed to have a plus one at her wedding – which pushed him to withdraw his monetary offer completely.

He added: “When my sister started planning her wedding my parents came to me to ask for some money. They didn’t save enough for her wedding and needed about $10k. I immediately said of course because I knew my parents felt guilty about not saving enough. They also helped contribute a bit to my college fees.

“I told them to not tell my sister and to keep this discreet. Well, they told my sister hoping it would fix things between us. Immediately after that, my sister blew up my phone telling me that she doesn’t need my pity and that this doesn’t change things.

“At that point, I was sick of everyone’s s**t. I tried to do something nice for the family and I get treated like s**t. The final straw was when my sister said I don’t have a plus one because of ‘seating issues’. She did this knowing I have a girlfriend I have to explain this to.

“I had enough and decided I’m not contributing a dime. I told my parents and they freaked out.”

Commenters were firmly on the man’s side, as many of them said he shouldn’t be forced to give money to someone who clearly doesn’t want it and is being “ungrateful”.

One person said: “Your sister actively does not want your money. She has made it clear she will still hate you if you contribute your money and she has gone out of her way to prevent you from bringing your girlfriend despite the fact that she currently knows you are making a substantial financial contribution towards this. She is actively ungrateful for this, you can spend your money in better ways.”

While another added: “You tried to do something nice for her yet it was not appreciated by your sister. Cut her off and let go of the situation. Clearly, she is not willing to let go of the past.”

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