Man slammed after refusing to say thanks for family Christmas dinner – but he hated it

A man has come under fire after he refused to say thank you for a festive family dinner, just because the food wasn’t to his taste – he’s been branded as ‘very rude’

Hosting Christmas parties before December 25 is no small feat – it can be really difficult to get the family round and cook something that everybody is going to enjoy. Some may choose to offer a beige buffet to pre-Christmas guests, or practice their turkey and trimmings, but others may decide that a takeaway is the best bet for them to take the pressure off before it’s ramped up.

One man wasn’t happy, however, when his boyfriend’s family decided to host a pre-Crimbo party, but offered a Chinese as their dinner. He took to Mumsnet to express that he wanted ‘Christmas food, nice snacks, Christmas nibbles etc’, so was left disappointed at the offering.

He wrote: “Posting for general opinions if others think this was unreasonable behaviour or not as my boyfriend is under the impression that I was being unreasonable and is furious at me but I don’t really think it was at all.

“My boyfriend and I (we are gay) last Christmas were invited to my boyfriend’s brother and his wife’s house for next (this) Christmas and at the time I agreed to go.

“AI had forgotten about it tbh but when reminded was still looking forward to going. It was on Sunday. Obviously being invited for Christmas dinner I was expecting Christmas food, not a full on Christmas dinner of course as it wasn’t on the actual day but just general Christmas food, nice snacks, Christmas things, Christmas nibbles etc. But when we arrived there was no food out or nothing cooking or nothing I could smell cooking.

“I checked in the kitchen and couldn’t see or smell anything cooking in there either. So I said to my boyfriend’s brother (not in a rude way) ‘aren’t you going to get some food ready to cook for us?’ and my boyfriend’s wife overheard and said ‘oh, we’re going to order Chinese’.

“Then I replied (in a light tone) ‘oh… It’s just that I was expecting like Christmas-type food what with it being Christmas and all!’ then my boyfriend’s brother barked at me quite nastily: ‘NO, we’ve just told you what we’re having so that’s enough we’ll hear out of you’. (Not the exact words he said but it was harsh and along those lines) and my boyfriend didn’t even say anything when he said that.

“After I kept trying to pull my boyfriend aside to ask him what I was planning to eat since I don’t like Chinese food but it was awkward because he was always around his brother and wife and I couldn’t get him on his own.

“After the food arrived they all opened everything and there was not one single thing I liked so I was just left to pick at bits of noodles and rice crackers gloomily whilst they were all eating until their hearts were content. Afterward, as we were leaving I just wasn’t really saying much.

“They opened the door and my boyfriend and his brother were just doing general ‘goodbye’ chit chat and I knew it was likely to drag out so in order to make it quicker I just firmly said bye and walked straight out and made my way to the car.

“Almost the entire journey home my boyfriend shouted at me at the top of his lungs being ballistic at me and then kept repeatedly shouting at me like a parrot: ‘You didn’t even say thank you. You didn’t even say thank you.’ I eventually said back: ‘Well, I wasn’t going to say thank you for something I don’t even like, why should I?’

“When he dropped me at home he just looked me and then just said ‘bye’ in a harsh tone and drove home without saying another word. Trying to be sarcastic obviously, but it still felt very hurtful to me.

“Do people think he is right and I am being unreasonable? Because I didn’t see the need to say thank you for something that I don’t like and can’t eat? Or do others agree that he (along with his brother and wife) were the unreasonable ones?”

In the replies, people slammed the man for his behaviour, saying that he behaved totally inappropriately from the get-go.

One wrote: “You were rude straight from the off!” and another agreed: “Omg you were so rude.”

Someone else said: “You are being unreasonable. They hosted you in their home and presumably paid for the takeaway? Surely there was something you could have ordered? I’m not surprised your boyfriend is p***** off at you tbh!”

“Of course you should have said thank you, ffs”, another fumed.

“So you were invited round for a meal on 18 December, complained about the food not being Christmassy enough then sat there with a face like a slapped a***? I’d have been annoyed with you too”, someone else raged.

Do you think he was being unreasonable? Let us know in the comments.