‘My boyfriend is spending Christmas morning with his ex for the third year – I’m livid’

A woman is raging as her boyfriend is spending Christmas with his ex for the third year – while admitting she’s not jealous, the woman’s concerned it ‘diminishes’ her role

Christmas Day is often spent surrounded by our closest friends, loved ones and family. However, the festivities can sometimes cause tensions if there’s too many people to squeeze for a visit.

This often means that the day is split in two to make sure that equal time is spent with those who you cherish the most.

A man who has chosen to spend Christmas Day morning with his ex and their children has left his girlfriend raging and she’s keen to put an end to the tradition. Taking her anger to popular forum Mumsnet, the woman explained that the frustrating ordeal “diminishes” her role.

She explained: “My boyfriend is divorced/separated for more than three years but he and his kid’s mum always do Christmas morning together (they would do the whole day if I wasn’t bothered).

“This year being the third year I have been around I thought it would be more a one had AM and one has lunch but it has moved forward to kids having lunch with one parent only but they always still come to each other’s house for Christmas AM.

“I am thrown as I assumed this year he would know I am bothered and it would stop. He says next year he will stop – kids 15, 14, and 10 now.

“I know it potentially is just a couple of hours (he says it will be 30min – it will not!) and I am by no way threatened that they are interested in each other at all. Not jealous in that respect.”

She continued: “I just have this odd feeling deep in my gut that I can’t shake that it makes me feel a bit strange.

“I think I worry that it diminishes my role in some way but equally I do also understand it’s great that he and her co-parent their kids in a civil way.

“I just don’t know why it bothers me so much,” she added. “Looking for you guys to rationalise my feelings please.”

Sharing clarification to the situation, the woman wrote: “He will then come on his own and have Xmas meal with my wider family when his ex takes the kids back to hers.”

Flocking to the comments, helpful users shared their advice on how the woman should deal with this situation – and many were in agreement.

One person said: “It’s what is best for the kids and that should always come first.”

“He is not spending Christmas morning with his ex, he is spending with his kids, and so is she,” a second penned.

“I think they should continue doing this for as long as the kids are kids and not adults, and you should be happy that he is such a nice considerate person.”

A third woman shared advice: “Although I wouldn’t like it either, I would swallow it. It’s only once a year and they’ll soon be uninterested in that kind of thing when they’re all cool teenagers or have their own partners.

“If you and your partner are in it for the long haul you’ll have plenty of Xmas Days together in years to come.”

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