‘My daughter saved her dad’s girlfriend as something heartbreaking in her phone’

Sometimes we see things we don’t want to when we least expect it, but one mother was left heartbroken when she saw her daughter had saved her dad’s girlfriend as ‘mum’ in her mobile phone

When you split up from a partner and you have children together, it can be really hard to come to terms with the situation when your ex gets a new romantic interest – especially because you know your child is going to be involved with the new person in some way.

One mother got more than she bargained for though when she noticed that her ‘mum’ had been texting her – but it turned out to be her ex-partner’s new girlfriend. She took to Mumsnet to express how she was ‘floored’ by the incident, but some Mumsnetters offered kind advice, stating the incident was just her being a typical teenager.

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The heartbroken mum wrote: “My daughter left her phone on the side of the bath and I moved it as I was about to have a bath myself.

“When I picked it up it had a text notification from ‘mum’ definitely not me as I haven’t had a reason to text her for days. I couldn’t help myself so I asked her who it was and it turns out it’s from her dad’s girlfriend he’s been with for two years max who is barely 10 years older than our daughter.

“I’m just floored and heartbroken. Her excuse was she was angry with me but f*** me I feel like someone’s ripped my heart out. How do I deal with this?”

She then went on to clarify in a later comment that she was upset because her daughter has referred to her exes girlfriend as her ‘mum’, not because her ex has a new girlfriend.

She also said that her daughter doesn’t have her saved in her phone as mum, which added insult to injury for her.

Some Mumsnetters accused the mum of not respecting her daughter’s privacy, but others were sympathetic and understood how much it must’ve hurt to see that.

One wrote: “Ouch that must have hurt. It is a difficult age, I can remember mine shouting I hate you at me which did make me cry.

“My advice is to just grit your teeth you will get through this, probably with a few emotional bruises and in my case lots of grey hair.”

Another suggested that it’s probably just because she’s a teen, writing: “Most of us were very silly when we were teenagers.

“If she ever clashes with her, no doubt she’ll be changed to ‘b****’ in the blink of an eye. I would just roll your eyes to yourself and not bother being heartbroken. Silly teens are gonna be silly teens.

“It’s actually good that she doesn’t have a s***, hateful relationship with her dad’s girlfriend at the minute. Better for her all round.”

Someone else suggested that honesty was the best policy, and it seemed like the pair needed to sit down and have a chat about it.

They wrote: “I would be honest with her and have a chat. Not to make her feel guilty but your feelings are valid. There may be other issues going on and she might appreciate the opportunity to open up about them.”

Would this upset you or would you take it with a pinch of salt? Let us know in the comments.