‘My friend gave my daughter some clothes – I want to sell them online instead’

If you’re having a clear-out, you may want to give some items you no longer use to friends and family – but you certainly wouldn’t expect them to go behind your back and sell them on for profit

When you get given clothes by a friend or family member, it’s really exciting. You can have a good root through the bags and decide what you want to keep, and what you can give to charity. It’s fun because you never know what you might find. A brand new sparkly top, a new favourite pair of jeans – and you know the rest of the items are going to benefit a charity, so it’s a win-win.

However, one woman took to Mumsnet to say she was going to do something eyebrow-raising. She’d been given some clothes from her friend and her daughter had chosen some she liked – but she wanted to sell the rest, despite the fact she told her pal she would donate them to charity.

She wrote: “A friend is moving house. We’re helping them on moving day.

“As part of the clear out, she brought several bin bags of clothes destined for the charity shop for my daughter to look through. My daughter chose a few bits but most of it is not stuff she likes.

“To save the friend having to worry about it I said I would take the bags to the charity shop but I’m tempted to sell a few bits on Vinted.

“They’re not mega things just hoodies I would sell for a couple of quid. Is that wrong?

“I personally wouldn’t care if the situation was reversed (if I couldn’t be a**** to sell and was taking to the charity but a friend could be a**** to sell) but I feel like some people might think that was bad and somehow my moral compass has gone a bit wonky. Should I not do this?”

People were quick to criticise the woman, saying that what she wanted to do was wrong – with some saying if she did choose to do that, it was only okay if her friend received the money after the sale had taken place.

One wrote: “Yes that is not ok! Your friend is expecting her stuff to go to a charity shop and instead you’re flogging them and keeping the money!”

Another agreed, commenting: “It’s only okay if you give her the money. Then she can choose to let you keep it, split it with you, or donate the cash to the charity instead.”

Someone said that they thought it was fine to profit off the clothes, however, writing: “Bottom line is that she doesn’t want them and you are taking them off her hands, so sell them if you want to.

“If she wanted to sell them she would have but she clearly cant be a****. And you can tell her you’re selling them if you want to but you don’t have to because they are your clothes now.”

Would you be annoyed if your friend did this? Let us know in the comments.