‘My friend went all out for her wedding – but didn’t send thank you cards for presents’

One woman was left really put out when four months after her friends wedding she hadn’t received a thank you for the gift she’d given her – but others defended the bride

When your friends get married it’s a really exciting occasion – you’re maybe helping them plan their venue, an outfit, you’ve got your outfit to plan, and also a present for the happy couple. Depending on your relationship with them, you may want to save up and splash some cash on them to get them a nice extravagant gift – which, of course, you’d then expect a ‘thank you’ for.

One woman took to Mumsnet to tell people she was really put out, however, as she explained that the bride and groom had a really extravagant wedding, but didn’t send thank you cards out after the wedding to acknowledge the gifts they’d received. She went on to point out that they didn’t even send texts either, so it wasn’t the card she was pining after – just a thank you.

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She wrote: “Am I being unreasonable t o think you should say thank you for wedding gifts?

“My friend’s wedding was four months ago. They went all out – save the date cards, professional invitations, very well catered, exclusive venue, musicians, exotic honeymoon, full works, pre-wedding photography etc. All paid for by the bride’s parents.

“The only thing they haven’t done is send thank you cards for the gifts. No email or text either. I think it’s really rude of them.”

People were quick to highlight that it was very rude, especially as they had gone all out on all other fronts.

One wrote: “Yes. It’s mega rude. But sadly not unusual.”

Another said: “Yes it’s terribly rude bit to thank people for gifts. Ideally, they should write as soon as the gift is received (and ideally a good number will be sent before the day itself).

“I suspect however that this couple are stationery addicts with a totally misguided belief that the opportunity to buy more stationery is more important than timeliness.”

Others pointed out that thank you cards can come quite a while after, commenting: “Generally, especially a wedding like you describe, the bride and groom are waiting for the wedding photos to come back and then send out thank you cards with the photos on them.

“As far as I remember, you can receive a thank you card up to 12 months after the wedding before it’s considered rude.”

Would you be annoyed at this? Let us know in the comments.