‘My girlfriend screamed at my little sister and made her cry – I may have to leave her’

The man is considering leaving his girlfriend because of the tense relationship she had with his little sister – but the 23-year-old woman was claiming she didn’t have an issue with her

For people who have a good relationship with their siblings, keeping them happy is an important part of their life – especially if you are the older one, as you may feel a certain sense of responsibility for your younger sibling. So, if you had a partner that seemed to be going out of their way to upset your brother or sister, you would probably be quite annoyed at them.

One man took to Reddit’s ‘am I the a******’ forum to ask whether people thought he was in the wrong for shouting at his girlfriend after she made his little sister cry. He explained that their parents weren’t the best for various reasons and that often he’d been a stand-in parent and had taken on extra responsibilities surrounding her – so he felt almost responsible for her.

He wrote: “I (m23) have a younger sister Paige (f15). Our parents weren’t the best parents for many reasons, but I ended up having to be a stand-in parent for Paige and taking on a lot of responsibilities.

“It isn’t the best circumstances but Paige and I have a very close relationship as a result of it. My sister is a good kid despite our c***** parents.

“Paige still lives with our parents but I’m the one who takes her to and picks her up from school every day (because they certainly won’t do it) and she spends a lot of time at my apartment. She also occasionally sleeps over on weekends.

“I have a girlfriend Jackie (f23) who I’ve been dating for around three months. We were good friends in high school and reconnected after college. Jackie was aware of my family situation before we started dating, but it’s caused a lot of problems.

“Whenever I leave to go take Paige to school or take her home from school, Jackie gets visibly annoyed about it. She’s made multiple ‘jokes’ where she’ll say that I should just make Paige walk (we don’t live in America so the schools don’t have their own buses).

“At first, Jackie didn’t seem to mind Paige being at my apartment but started making Paige feel very unwelcome by making not very subtle comments like ‘shouldn’t you be at your own house?'”

He then went on to explain that these passive-aggressive comments to his 15-year-old sister made him feel uncomfortable, saying he wanted to ‘solve the issue’, but she just ‘gets defensive and swears that she doesn’t have a problem with Paige.’

He continued: “A few days ago, it caused a massive argument between us and I’m considering breaking up with Jackie over this.

“Whilst I was watching a movie with Jackie at my place, I got a phone call from Paige’s school, she was feeling unwell and the nurse called me to say Paige needs to go home (my parents weren’t answering their phones).

“I explained it to Jackie and said I’m going to go pick Paige up. She seemed very annoyed but I’m just looking out for my sister so I drove to the school, picked Paige up and drove her back to my apartment.

“I remembered I had an errand to run so I told Jackie I’d be going again and asked if she wanted to come. She refused and seemed really irritated. I decided I’d talk to her once I got back. When I got back, Paige was crying and Jackie was in the bedroom with the door closed.

“I asked what happened and Paige said that she accused her of manipulating me, screamed at her and cussed her out. I was mortified.

“I knocked on the bedroom door and told Jackie we need to talk. Jackie opened the door and said that Paige is a f****** brat and that my girlfriend needs my attention too. I lost my temper and yelled at Jackie for speaking about my sister like that and told her to leave. Jackie screamed at me as she was leaving.

“We haven’t spoken since and Jackie’s friends are blowing up my phone telling me I’m a terrible boyfriend.”

People were quick to point out that the relationship seemed quite toxic.

One wrote: “You get that Jackie sees your sister as competition, right? Your girlfriend. Sees your SISTER. A MINOR. As competition. Your gut is telling you to break up. Do it. Protect your sister and yourself.”

Another commented: “Jackie’s a piece of work. She’s not only been passive-aggressive with her ‘jokes’, but also aggressive with attacking Paige all because she’s jealous that she’s not the centre of attention.”

Someone agreed, writing: “I picked up on that immediately. Paige is a CHILD and needs one stable adult in her life, and Jackie is jealous that he divides his attention. God forbid he had friends to further divide his attention.

“He tried to include her on an outing with him. Not a fun outing, but still time spent together, she rejected it, I suspect to enact a planned attack on his sister.”

“And this happening only three months in?”, one asked.

“Do not feel bad. Do not go back to her. Block all her friends from texting you, and do not EVER go back to her”, one Redditor insisted.

What do you think he should do? Let us know in the comments.