‘My husband isn’t invited to his work Christmas party – I feel like we’re misfits’

A woman was left baffled after realising that her husband hadn’t been invited to his work Christmas party for the second year in a row – she referred to their family as ‘social misfits’

Ah, the annual Christmas work party. The place where you can let your hair down and have some fun with your colleagues. That is, if you’re invited to it in the first place.

One woman took to Mumsnet to explain that her husband had worked for his company for two years, and he’d not been invited to the Christmas work do for the second year in a row.

She said that his colleagues couldn’t ‘understand why he hasn’t been invited’, but then revealed that he doesn’t get on well with the person who organises the event as he can ‘be hard to get along with’.

In the heartbreaking post, she explained: “My husband has told me that for the second year of working for a company he has not been invited to the Christmas work do. His work comprises of a few smaller teams and the person in charge of one of these teams also works in a pub and arranges the event.

“My husband and this person speak on a frequent basis and the coordinator has even discussed the party in front of my husband. His work colleagues all can’t understand why he hasn’t been invited, they don’t gel personality-wise but this man can be hard to get along with.

“Last night was the party and at work, people were asking each other if they were going. My husband works closely with one other person who said he wasn’t. However, later my husband heard him on the phone saying he was going and had to lie so it didn’t seem awkward in front of my husband.

“My husband isn’t the sort to speak up about it or to find out why but am I being unreasonable at being annoyed that no one else has spoken up for him? I can see my husband is gutted at not being invited and he says others across the teams have mentioned it to him.

“It also feels worse as my six-year-old daughter was the only girl in her class (out of nine girls) last not invited to a birthday party last month – I’m starting to feel like we are social misfits.”

Many were trying to get to the bottom of the situation, with some asking whether it was just a general invite – but the mum was adamant that her husband had been left out, explaining it was at a pub, and people had been personally invited as the organiser needed specific numbers to know how many people to accommodate.

One wrote: “This is so weird, he should just speak to his manager about it. Or just turn up.”

Someone encouraged him to mention something in a 1-2-1 meeting with his boss, commenting: “Your husband should ask the boss during a 1-2-1. I’d say I was just wondering if I’d done something to upset the team as I’ve not been invited to the party. It’s completely unacceptable as the boss to do that.”

Others were furious for the man, writing: “That is so hurtful and rude and childish. The fact you can compare it to a child’s birthday party shows how incredibly immature the d******d is that organised it.”

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