‘My husband won’t leave me alone when I’m in the shower – I just want a bit of privacy’

One woman was so mad at her husband for walking in on her whilst she showered, she had a go at him and has since turned to the internet for some advice on the situation

Having a family often means that your ‘alone time’ is significantly decreased – especially when you have young children. In one woman’s case, however, it was her husband who wouldn’t leave her alone when she wanted some peace and quiet and almost caused a seriously embarrassing situation for her that would’ve left her red-faced.

The woman took to Mumsnet to explain that her husband would seldom give her alone time, and would often interrupt her even when she was in the shower. Not even allowed five minutes of peace, the harassed mum explained why the shower didn’t have a lock on it in the first place.

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She wrote: “Every time I am in the shower my husband comes in. It’s usually to ask me about something he can’t find.

“This morning he did it and then left the bathroom door open. The in-laws are in the guest room and if they’d come out of their bedroom I’d have been seen stark naked in the shower. I completely lost my s*** with him.

“We don’t have a lock for safety (our toddler can lock herself in but can’t unlock it) but regardless surely a bit of basic respect should apply here.”

People were shocked that her husband wouldn’t give her any time alone and they were wondering why his queries couldn’t wait.

One wrote: “Well your husband clearly has no respect for your privacy, so your options are to either get a lock or lose the husband.”

A Mumsnetter suggested getting a new lock system, rather than having none at all. They commented: “The obvious solution is to fit a lock that you can undo from the outside by simply inserting the edge of a coin and turning it.

“They are not expensive, and I got them when my children were little, precisely to avoid the risk of them getting locked in while guaranteeing adult privacy.”

Others offered solutions that didn’t involve a new lock, writing: “My husband used to always come in when I was in the bathroom too, not for anything in particular, just to do his teeth etc and it drove me nuts so I feel your pain.

“In the end, I would say ‘are you finished in the bathroom before I shower/do my make-up?’ or ‘shall I use our daughter’s bathroom to shower or are you finished in ours?’ and he eventually got the hint that I would not be going into the bathroom if he was.

“I know it’s a bit different for you because he is not actually needing the bathroom so I would be inclined to say ‘do you need anything from me before I go shower?’ etc.”

Another said: “Have you told him to not disturb you when you’re in the bathroom? Not asked, but told him.”

Others also suggested setting clearer boundaries: “You obviously have different expectations and levels of comfort. I wouldn’t like people walking in on me when I’m in the shower so we have a lock on the door. Two adults and three teenagers here, and we all lock the door. It’s not unusual to want privacy.”

What would you do in this situation? Let us know in the comments.