‘My husband’s ex keeps waltzing into our home uninvited – something has changed’

A raging mum has voiced her anger online as her husband’s ex-girlfriend is waltzing into their home and acting ‘like she owns the place’ in the midst of co-parenting

Splitting up with a partner is never easy, and it becomes even tougher when you are a parent. One mum has asked for advice online about how to navigate the murky waters – as her husband’s ex-partner keeps waltzing into their home uninvited and acting “like she owns the place” in the midst of co- parenting.

Pleading for advice online, the raging mum detailed her stressful encounter in an ‘am I being unreasonable’ forum for budding parents. The woman explained: “I don’t know why this is suddenly a thing but my husband’s ex keeps just waltzing into our house whenever she drops their children off (they aren’t young).”

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“She never used to do this and would either stay in the car or at the door, the most in the hallway if raining and they needed to chat about something.

She continued: “Anyway, the past few times she’s been she’s just strode into our house like she owns the place, through into the living room and even kitchen last week (back of the house) to ‘bring children’s stuff in’ (it’s rucksack that just contains the electronics they bring to and from as they have everything else here), they could quite easily bring it themselves.

“I’m not feeling well this week and was lay on the sofa in my PJs last night and in she waltzed. My husband had just been about to go to the door as he’d seen them pull up but she got there first and she walked into the living room.

“I don’t want this woman walking around my house whenever she feels like it and certainly not when I’m unwell and just trying to chill out,” she added.

The raging mum has come to the end of her tether and is prepared to confront her husband about the strange ordeal.

Questioning whether she was being unreasonable in the post on Mumsnet, she sought advice from fellow users to spill their thoughts on the peculiar encounters.

“Am I being unreasonable to tell my husband to speak to her and ask her not to do this?” She asked.

“If she was a nicer person perhaps we could be friendlier, but she’s made it clear she’s no intention of that over the years so stay out of my home.

“I wouldn’t even mind the odd time if she thought we hadn’t heard them come in and she needed to pop her head round to speak to or something something, but she just strides in like she owns the place.”

Users took to the comment section of the post to share their suggestions and ways to proceed – and it seemed as if many like-minded users had the same idea.

One person suggested: “You can’t just expect a boundary pusher to respect boundaries so take simple steps to enforce them. So, yes speak to your husband but also lock your door. This is what I did with a relative who did the same.”

Another wrote: “Lock the door, husband answers it and keeps her there. I wouldn’t put up with her walking into my home. You are not being unreasonable.”

“Yep, lock the door, keep the key in the back of the lock- ‘thanks for dropping them- I’ll grab their bag, thanks, bye’,” a third agreed.

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