‘My mum wants me to have a big traditional wedding, so I said she has to pay’

After a couple got engaged, they decided they did not want a big traditional wedding and opted for something smaller, but the soon-to-be bride’s mum has other ideas

A woman has told her mum that if she wants her to have a big traditional wedding, she should pay as the happy couple would have opted for something smaller. The soon-to-be bride took to Reddit to explain that when the pair first got engaged, both sets of parents were happy to pay toward the wedding, whatever size.

However, as the happy couple started thinking of what wedding they want, they realised neither of them are too keen on a big traditional wedding and would want something a bit smaller and intimate. The bride who remained anonymous said: “My dad and my fiance’s parents are completely happy with this, but my mom is very opposed to the idea.

“She keeps trying to convince me that I’ll regret it, that if we go with a small wedding it won’t be special and we might as well just get married in a court house.”

As she is the only child, the mother is apparently upset that she won’t get to see any child of hers get married in a big traditional ceremony.

“This argument has been going on for a while and has come up in basically every conversation I’ve had with my mom for two weeks,” noted the author of the post.

Things have come to a head in recent days though as the mother and daughter have continued to clash over the size of the wedding.

“Eventually I told her that the only way we’ll agree to a big traditional wedding is if she agrees to be responsible for paying for the entire wedding,” said the soon-to-be bride.

“She can’t really afford that so I figured that would shut the idea down.”

However, that was not quite the end of the discussion as the woman had hoped.

“She said she already agreed to help pay for it and that the money from her, my dad, and my fiances family would pay for the wedding, but I insisted that since she is the only person who wants us to have that kind of wedding, she would need to be the one to pay for it. All of it,” said the author.

The mother is now very upset with her daughter as the daughter felt she went too far.

Many were quick to comment on this post as one person noted: “Your wedding is not about what your mom wants. It’s what you and your fiance want.”

While another said: “You and your fiancé do not want a big wedding – that’s it. You stick to that, loudly and emphatically if you have to. That’s the reason you give her.”

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