‘My sister-in-law banned me from her wedding – she says I ruined her engagement party’

A woman has been banned from her sister-in-law’s wedding after she caused a scene at her engagement party with some news that ‘ruined’ the event for the bride-to-be

We all know the unspoken rule about not proposing at someone else’s wedding, and there are similar etiquette rules in place about announcing engagements and pregnancies on other people’s special days too. But one woman has been banned from her sister-in-law’s wedding after she failed to follow the rules and caused a scene at the engagement party that was held ahead of her tying the knot.

The woman confessed she is currently pregnant with her first child, but had been planning on keeping the news a secret until the week after the engagement party so that she didn’t steal the spotlight from her sister-in-law. However, things didn’t go to plan when she was forced to turn down a glass of wine – leaving her family suspicious.

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She claimed her sister-in-law asked her if she was pregnant “as a joke”, and she tried to avoid answering the question, which just confirmed the other woman’s thoughts. She was then accused of “ruining” the engagement party with her own news, and was subsequently banned from the upcoming wedding.

In a post on Reddit, she wrote: “I’m 4 months pregnant. My husband and I are very excited and we can’t wait to be parents. We decided not to tell people until the week after the party.

“My in-laws own a winery and it’s beautiful. It’s where my sister-in-law (let’s call her Taylor) got engaged and where the engagement party was. I’m known for loving wine and I like a glass of wine while out but with a glass of water for the rest of the outing.

“At the engagement party, I was drinking water and talking to my in-laws when Taylor offer me a glass of wine. I told her that I don’t feel like drinking. She kept offering me and I kept refusing.

“I made up so many excuses until she asked if I was pregnant as a joke. I nervously smiled and tried to walk away. She screamed that I ruined her engagement party by telling her that I’m pregnant.

“Now my husband and I are not invited to her wedding.”

Several commenters on the post were on the woman’s side though, with many saying that the bride-to-be can’t expect others to put their lives on hold for them.

One person wrote: “Nothing is worse than a bride that thinks the whole world should stop for her and her wedding. Offering you a glass of wine is fine and polite, but if someone refuses why keep offering and even make the pregnancy joke? Sounds like she was intentionally wanting drama.”

As another said: “You delayed telling expressly not to overshadow her party. She offered a drink and you refused because you couldn’t safely do so, despite her unreasonable insistence, then when she guessed the cause you quietly withdrew. You didn’t cause a scene, hell you technically didn’t even tell her. She’s being a megalomaniac.”

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