Therapist shares warning about point of ‘no return’ to look out for in relationships

A therapist has pointed out that once you cross the point of ‘no return’ in a relationship it is almost impossible to get back on track so it is best to talk about these things early on

A therapist has warned couples of a point of ‘no return’ in relationships where one of them might overlook pain caused by the other. Kelly Armatage, 48, says that love can sometimes blind people to pain they feel from a significant other and feels that when this is not addressed, it can reach a point of no return.

The expert explained that often with couples there can be conflict and toxic behaviours which bubble up under the surface, so she claims that the best way to avoid these issues growing into something serious is to talk about them openly so that the relationship can thrive.

If the conversation is avoided for too long and the resentment keeps building then couples can hurtle towards a point of no return where the possibility of the relationship getting back on track to an open and trusting place is lost.

To avoid this happening she advises that couples examine their individual behaviours that might be causing the other pain.

Kelly, from St Albans, Hertfordshire, explained: “A relationship gets to a point of no return when conflict and behaviours are repeated to the point of resentment. Pain gets bigger and bigger when behaviours are repeated until at one point there is a pain threshold.

“If they get passed this point the relationship is over because they don’t care and are now numb. The other wants to save it but it will be too late for their partner.”

She continues by saying that many will not return if there is a lot of pain in the relationship as the line has been crossed.

Kelly suggests that the best way to avoid this is to be empathetic and considerate of your own behaviours.

She said: “If you have a lot of conflict in a relationship then look at your behaviours that might be causing your partner pain. Look to be senstive to their needs and to not take them for granted.

“Be empathetic and look at ways to resolve conflict. It could save a relationship.”

In addition she states that couples that might struggle to discuss these issues could thrive from therapy sessions as there is the complete freedom to talk.

“Therapy can take a 5 out of 10 relationships to a 10 out of 10 one,” she said.

“Or stop those heading for a break-up or divorce. People spend money on phones and TV packages so why not spend some on therapy?

“You go to the gym to give you a better body image so it’s the same with therapy.”

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