Widowed mum pulls out of sister’s wedding after realising she was being set up

A widow who is still grieving for her late husband, and who has absolutely no interest in dating, says she was left furious after learning her soon-to-be-wed sister wanted to set her up at her upcoming wedding

A widow who lost her husband five years ago at the age of just 31 says she’s made it quite clear that she isn’t looking to get involved with anybody else, and so wasn’t happy at all to learn that her own sister was trying to set her up. According to the bereaved mum of three, she learned from her brother that her sister had ’rounded up many single men’ to invite to her upcoming wedding in February, and had even recruited people ‘to help her play matchmaker’ on the big day.

Although she has repeatedly tried to explain to her sister that she doesn’t want to find anyone else, she just doesn’t appear to understand, and her latest meddling has proven to be the final straw.

The young widow has missed her late husband ‘like crazy’ in the five years since his death, and has since poured herself into her children, work, and hobbies. She has ‘no interest in dating’, but unfortunately, her sister has continued to push her on this front, encouraging her to find a new partner and a father for her kids.

Taking to Reddit, the unnamed woman – who goes by the username u/Special_Cabinet_613 – wrote: “Even as a teen I had zero dating interest. My husband was the exception. I loved him, I was best friends with him, we were compatible in every way and we found a relationship that worked for the two of us and gave us a life better than we had planned.

“My interest in dating has not sparked now in my 30s and widowed. I have pleaded with my sister to understand, to know that I am living the life I want to live and that I am not some broken-hearted shell who has paused my life.”

After multiple conversations, she’d assumed her sister had accepted this and had been looking forward to attending her wedding. The bride and groom-to-be had even generously offered to pay for hotel costs for her and her children, but it soon became clear there was an ulterior motive at play.

Over the Christmas period, her brother let slip that their sister had plans to set her up with single men at the wedding, contrary to her actual wishes, and revealed that this was the reason why she’d offered to pay for a hotel.

She continued: “I was not happy. Her friend she recruited to help confirmed it to me. She said my sister has been wanting to find me the perfect man and has planned it all. I was so done at this point that I called my sister, told her I knew what she was up to and I would no longer be attending her wedding and I was not going to trust her again.”

Her sister is now upset and has accused her of ‘overreacting’, while her parents have encouraged her to just ignore the matchmaking plan and attend the wedding anyway. Now she’s begun to wonder whether or not she’s made the right call.

One fellow Reddit user advised: “She doesn’t get to decide when it’s time for you to move on. It was a scummy move for her to set up this whole scheme behind your back and I don’t blame you for not going.”

Another commented: “People don’t have to define themselves through their relationship status. Your sister seems to have no regard for what you want, the little Bachelorette she set up is just so disrespectful. Sorry for your loss, you’re within your rights to grieve and recover as you choose. All the best to you and your kids.”

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