Woman accused of ‘stealing the thunder’ at a wedding – because of her jewellery

A woman has been left baffled after she was accused of stealing the thunder from the bride at a wedding – all because her family claimed her jewellery was too flashy

We all know that the unwritten etiquette rules of a wedding mean you should never wear white – or whatever colour the bride happens to be wearing – as a guest, but one woman has found herself being accused of “stealing the thunder” because of one small part of her outfit – her jewellery.

The woman said she hasn’t attended many weddings and was worried she had done something wrong when she turned up at the event wearing a necklace, several rings, a bracelet, and an anklet, as she was told by the groom’s mum that her accessories were too attention-grabbing.

She claimed the wedding was her friend’s sister’s, and even though neither her friend nor her sister mentioned anything negative about her look, she was still told by other members of the bride and groom’s family that she was acting “spoilt” for wearing flashy jewellery.

In a Reddit post, she said: “Recently, I was invited to a wedding of my friend’s elder sister. They had a big wedding with a lot of guests and since I have a very good relationship with my friend’s family, I was invited. I’m not used to attending many weddings so I used my friend’s help and some Googling to figure out the way these weddings usually take place.

“It was a black tie event so I chose an appropriate longer navy blue gown with black heels. I chose minimalist makeup as well. I wore a pearl necklace, stud earrings, and a stud nose pin that cannot be larger than a dot. I also wore a matching pearl bracelet on one of my hands, three silver rings on my fingers, and very simple anklets that are barely visible due to the length of the gown.

“All of my jewellery was the exact same colour and it matched nicely with my dress so it didn’t look out of place.

“On the day of the wedding, there were around two hundred people and naturally, I didn’t know most of them. During the dinner, a lot of people at my table got to know me and complimented my look. I did the same for them and it was going positively well until the groom’s mother approached me privately.

“Apparently she found my look, especially the ornaments, to be ‘too exotic’ and said that I was trying to steal the thunder from her beautiful daughter-in-law. I politely told her ‘I’m sorry if you feel that way. But I know the bride well and she looks absolutely gorgeous. I don’t think I could ever steal her thunder today even if I wanted to.’

“She replied in a rather aggressive manner that ‘you youngsters are full of spoilt brats who can never read the room and only care about their perfect Instagram pictures.’ She left abruptly and I was very hurt by that statement for the rest of the night. It’s true that I did get some attention from one of the groomsmen later that night who asked to exchange numbers.

“My friend or the bride herself didn’t bring up anything about my look and acted positively throughout the event. I can’t get it out of my mind even after a week. So I’m conflicted.”

Commenters on the post were firmly on the woman’s side, with many slamming the groom’s mum for her “rude” manner.

One person said: “The groom’s mother is both overstepping and being incredibly rude. Your outfit sounds perfectly fine to me for a wedding. Have you let your friend or her sister know this happened? It may be a good idea to ask if they felt you had overdressed in their eyes – it’s a more neutral way of broaching the subject of the groom’s mother being so rude.”

While another added: “It sounds like you were dressed very appropriately for a black tie wedding. I would focus on the positive comments you received.”

And a third wrote: “I wish all these older women would just learn to stay in their lane and keep their weird comments to themselves. If the bride had an issue with what you were wearing I’m sure she would have approached you herself or had your friend do it.”

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