Woman discovers ‘secret’ to happy marriage – but keeps it from her husband

One woman has shared her delight after figuring out what she believes is the “unspoken rule of happy marriages”, but she has not yet decided if she will tell her husband about it

Long-established couples will often agree on a similar set of priorities, if you quiz them about the key to marital bliss. Open and honest conversation often tops such lists, or sometimes there’s simple rules that couples swear by in order to stay connected.

For instance, “We never skip date night,” is a common piece of advice that must have been given by thousands, if not millions, of well-wishers. Although sometimes controversial, the suggestion couples should sleep in different beds is another favourite. Well, one woman who would most definitely agree is delighted to have discovered the legitimacy of this tip.

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And after testing the trick, she is “sure having separate rooms in the unspoken rule of happy marriages”. The only problem is she hasn’t told her husband she loves the arrangement.

Posting to Mumsnet, one happily married woman shared how sleeping apart from her partner has only added to her joy.

She wrote: “For the last week I have been sleeping in our eldest son’s room (sofa bed) and Good Lord, I have been sleeping so soundly!!

“Normally I’m disturbed by my husband’s snoring, his fidgeting, his getting up for a wee twice a night and feeling chilly because he likes the bedroom window open a little at night.

“It’s been like heaven this last week not having to deal with that!”

However, she has yet to share her love of the arrangement with her husband – even though he may suspect this is the case.

Her post explained: “This morning he joked about me preferring to share a room with our son than him and I laughed it off when inside I was thinking ‘Hell yes I do’.

“I’m due to move back to our bedroom tonight and feeling a bit disappointed because this set-up is glorious.”

She concluded: “My husband has bought me up a cup of tea in bed this morning and now he’s downstairs dealing with the children and their breakfasts etc.

“Its bliss and I could certainly get used to this. I’m sure having separate rooms in the unspoken rule of happy marriages.”

In response, commenters were quick to praise the tip, with one person even claiming it had saved her marriage.

“Absolutely. We have been married forever, and it was only for the first three years that we shared a bed. Even on holiday we have separate rooms. Utter bliss,” read one comment.

Another agreed: “It really can be the secret to a happier marriage!”

And someone else said: “Separate bedrooms here for years and years. Without them, we would have split! They have saved our marriage.”

Several more people also spoke about how common the practice is.

“You’d be surprised how many people confess to sleeping apart when you admit to it yourself,” one person said.

“I know so many couples who sleep separately!” a different commenter claimed.

Reassured by the feedback, the woman said she would now consider talking to her husband about making a permanent change.

She wrote: “It’s great to hear from so many separate sleepers!!!

“My husband has gone out for the day but when he’s home I’m considering talking to him about making it a more permanent set-up. Or maybe just for the Mon-Fri when getting a good sleep is better for us when we have got to get up for work.

“My husband gets really hot at night and he hates it if I get too close to him or if I lean against him or rest my head on him etc so I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s also secretly enjoyed the solo sleeping.”

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