Woman miffed as partner forgets her birthday – despite remembering his ex’s

A woman wasn’t happy after her boyfriend forgot her birthday, but she was miffed when he admitted to never forgetting the birthday’s of his exes – she said it really ‘hurt’

When you’re celebrating your birthday and have a partner, you probably expect them to mark the occasion in a special way. Whether that be that they cook you a nice dinner including all your favourite foods, or whether they buy you something you’ve had your eye on for ages but haven’t quite convinced yourself to buy yet. It’s not all about the money, but it is certainly about remembering the occasion.

That’s why one woman was left ’embarrassed’ when her boyfriend, who she lives with, forgot her 25th birthday. Her Mumsnet post claimed that he was ‘apologetic and sorry’ but she was left gutted.

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She wrote: “I’m so embarrassed. My partner has forgotten my 25th birthday today. I confronted him about an hour ago and said have you forgotten and he was very apologetic and sorry.

“Said he’s never missed a birthday before with previous partners (he’s older than me and has had lots of girlfriends) and that’s what hurts the most I think- the fact that it’s just me he’s ever forgotten.

“He says it’s no reflection of how he feels for me, that he loves me etc. We’re shy of one year together so last year he gave me birthday gifts in early September as we hadn’t physically met by my birthday.

“I didn’t even want gifts per se, just a thoughtful card and a ‘happy birthday’. We live together, I reminded him last week but he’s still forgotten. I don’t know what to make of it. Am I being unreasonable to be upset?”

People defended the woman saying that she has every right to be upset – especially because she’d given him a reminder a week ago.

One wrote: “You’ve been together less than a year. If he’s not now practically crawling on his knees for forgiveness, and putting together something really great for you now, then I’d leave.”

Another said he couldn’t possibly have forgotten if she reminded him last week, writing: “He’s decided he couldn’t be bothered and seen if he can get away with it. Telling you he’s never forgotten his exes is just cruel.”

“Yeah, if you reminded him a week ago then I’d be annoyed about it too”, one agreed.

Someone said it was good he’d apologised, but he gave unnecessary detail, commenting: “At least he’s apologetic but not sure why he felt the need to tell you he always remembered his ex-partners birthdays, that’s hardly going to make you feel better is it?”

One suggested he may be setting the bar purposefully low for himself, typing: “He’s setting you up to have low expectations of him, and to see what you will put up with.”

A Mumsnetter said it wasn’t a good sign, writing: “He didn’t forget though, did he? You told him a week ago so he knew and he chose not to plan anything, or get you a gift or even a card. If he is already taking you for granted after less than a year together that’s a very bad sign in my opinion.”

How would you feel if this happened to you? Let us know in the comments.