Woman sneaks out of restaurant after fiancé demands she pays for the whole group

The woman was left in an awkward position after her partner invited her to enjoy a meal out with him and his friends, then told her she was expected to pay halfway through the dinner

Couples can take a variety of approaches when it comes to their finances. For some, it is simplest if everyone pays their own way all of the time. Meanwhile, others are more than happy to split the bill taking into account any differences in wealth. But how would you feel if your partner demanded you pay more because you earn more, and wouldn’t take no for an answer?

Well, one woman has been left in a difficult position as her fiancé expects her to not only treat him, but pay for things for his friends as well, after getting a pay raise.

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And matters came to a head when he invited her out for dinner, then tried to ambush her with the bill – despite already insisting she would not cover it.

The disastrous evening ended with the woman sneaking out of the restaurant, according to her Reddit post.

Taking to the website’s “Am I the A******e” forum, the runaway diner claimed the evening was just one several similar incidents.

Posting as u/Throwaway795571, she wrote: “I (F33) have been engaged to my fiance (M37) for 5 months. We don’t share finance because that’s what he wants. I got a raise on my salary. now I earn 30% more than he does and I noticed that he’s been using this to ask me to pay for him and his friends. Whenever I say ‘no’ or ‘why should I pay for this?’ he’d respond with ‘the 30% that’s why’. He acts as if the 30% is unfair or that I’m not deserving of it.

“Several times he has tricked me to pay for his and his friend’s meals by asking me publicly. Let me say that I’m too nice to say ‘no’, I hate confrontation especially when we’re at a public place like a restaurant so I just grin and pay.

“Last tuesday, he asked me to join him and his buddies for dinner. I told him from the start I wasn’t paying for their food and he shouldn’t expect me to. He said he ‘got this’ and ‘no worries’.

“We got to the restaurant. Met his friends, ordered food. And in the middle of the meal he leaned in and whispered that I would be paying for everything he and his friends ordered.

“I got so mad I whispered back ‘noooo’ but he probably relied on me not causing a scene in public and infront of his friends. he said ‘you have enough money you could pay for everyone’s food, 30% remember?'”

She continued: “I was fuming inside. instead of reacting negatively and losing my temper. I waited til the bills arrived (they were already split from the start when we first ordered) I paid for mine then I excused myself to the restroom. I then sneaked out from there, got into my car and went home.

“I started getting phonecalls from my fiance then texts asking where I was. I texted back saying I didn’t appreciate how he put me in this situation and basically tricking me into paying for his and his friends food. I told him I went home then stopped replying.

“An hour later he came and started yelling at me calling me selfish, irrational, cheapskate and childish for sneaking out like that and leaving him stuck with a bill he could not pay (He had to call his brother for help). We had a loud argument then he walked out.

“His friends didn’t speak to me on this but he told me they’re disappointed in my behavior and are telling him to take time and ‘reflect’ on the type of woman he’s gonna be married to.”

The woman then asked fellow Reddit users if her fiancé had acted fairly, adding that he later admitted to not telling her about his expectation on purpose because he knew she would refuse, but he thought it was acceptable as the restaurant “wasn’t expensive”.

But people were quick to rush to the woman’s defence, with many suggesting she should reconsider her relationship.

One person said: “I feel like you’re the one that needs to do the reflecting on the type of man you’ll be married to…”

Another agreed: “He needs to be an ex. Instead of being happy for your achievements he’s bitter and jealous.”

And someone else added: “Why are you marrying someone who insists that his money is his money, but your money is also his money?”

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