Woman’s upset as man tells her she is ‘ideal wife’ except for ‘far from perfect’ looks

The woman became upset after the harsh words were delivered by someone she believed to be her good friend, when quizzed about any potential romance between the pair

Fancying someone who doesn’t see you in the same way never feels good. But no matter the circumstances, you would hope the object of your affection would let you down kindly if you made your feelings known. At the very least, you hope they would not be rude. This statement rings especially true if you are on good terms with the person you admire.

So you can imagine how upset one woman was left feeling after someone she believed was a good friend let her down in the worst way possible. The man, who she thought was her best friend, revealed he has never asked her out because she is “far from perfect physically “.

What’s more, she had not asked him out at the time, though she had made her attraction clear in the past. Instead, he delivered his brutal verdict out of the blue, laughing in her face as he did it. And while the woman stuck up for herself, and will no longer continue the friendship, she has, understandably, been left saddened by the exchange.

She revealed her friend’s “horrible” treatment of her, in a post to Reddit’s ‘offmychest’ forum. She there wrote: “My best friend and I have known each other for 7 years now, and he has always had a very specific taste in women.”

Her post then went on to list attributes desired by her friend, which differed from her own description of her appearance. She added: “I will often compliment him which always results in a mix of flirting and joking – though he thrives from this so will often will send pictures of his outfits to me.

“Although I would never expect it from him if he had nothing nice to say, he has never made any comments when I send him similar pictures – although our general flirting continues in other contexts. And in vulnerable moments, he has even described me as an ‘ideal wife’ before now, and has expressed his interest in being with someone ‘like me’.”

However, the woman said she did not begin to consider the possibility of dating her friend until a few years ago, when he entered into a relationship with someone who “didn’t fit the description of his typical type at all.”

She respected his relationship, but nonetheless felt “confused” about her own feelings in private.

The woman explained: “I began to question my whole ‘he has one type’ mindset, and was suddenly put into a position where us together was no longer an impossibility.

“And I didn’t like that thought. I always liked the security of believing he was harsh on attraction since it kept me from taking it personally, and more importantly allowed us to stay friends, which is 100% the best for us.”

Her post then skipped forward to “today”, when she met up with her now-single friend. She wrote: “We met for coffee and he told me about some of the interesting things that happened on his recent work trip. He said that after drinking a few beers, the guys began discussing relationships, and he told me I actually came up when he was asked about ‘the person he cares about the most’. He then spent the next 5 minutes describing what he told them, about my ‘unbeatable personality’ and our ‘similar morals and ideas’, and it was honestly so beautiful.

“I was truly touched, and then he hit my with the closing words he gave to his friends. ‘It’s just a shame she’s faaaar from perfect physically’. And while saying this, he belly laughed in my face.

“I didn’t say anything and he could tell I was a bit upset, and for some reason he decided to make matters worse by confirming that the reason he’s never made a move is because of my looks.”

Her post concluded: “I’m honestly fine with a normal rejection type deal, but for some reason he just found an opportunity to insult me and call me desperate, and took it. He almost seemed mad at me because I’m not what he wants. It was weird.” Fortunately, people were on hand to offer words of advice and support for the woman, with many telling her: “You deserve way better.”

One person said: “This guy isn’t a real friend and I’m sorry you had to go through this. He’s the desperate one if anything, because anyone that feels the need to put their FRIEND down like this is probably scraping the bottom of the barrel for stuff to boost their ego with.”

A second said: “I think that’d be the last time I hung out with him. Id be slowly backing off in texting too. Stop complimenting him. Either just be regular friends with no flirting or stop being friends.

“This guy doesn’t respect you. I can’t believe he said that to his buddies too. Go put your effort in somewhere else sis, where it’s much more appreciated.”

And she replied: “After the way he treated me today, I 100% plan on this. For a long time we had quite a fun almost “will they won’t they” dynamic – but clearly that’s changed, and I think we’ll both be better off long term if we make a LOT more distance from here. I appreciate your advice!”

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