Bride refuses to let dad propose to his girlfriend at her wedding

A bride-to-be claims she had to put her foot down after her widowed dad asked if he could propose to his girlfriend on her wedding day, as a way of “welcoming her into the family”

A woman who is preparing to get married says she was “shocked” when her dad asked if he could propose to his girlfriend on her wedding day, wanting to work the proposal into the bouquet toss. The bride-to-be sadly lost her mother to cancer a few years back and found it difficult when her dad became involved with his now girlfriend within just one year of her death.

Although she’s pleased he’s found someone to keep him company, she does feel things moved a little too fast, and this factor has damaged their relationship somewhat. She already feels “very emotional” planning her wedding without her beloved mum by her side, and feels his request was entirely inappropriate, particularly given he hasn’t offered to contribute towards the big day.

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During a recent visit to her dad’s house, he showed her a video of a bride about to toss the bouquet, only to hand it to a bridesmaid, who then turns around to see that she herself is getting proposed to. She initially assumed he was just showing her a “cute” wedding video, but then he revealed he wanted to do the exact same thing for his girlfriend at her wedding.

Taking to Reddit, where she goes by the username u/CloudIndependent8108, the future bride recalled: “I was shocked and asked if he was serious. He said he had been thinking about it and this is what he wanted to do to make it special and to show that I am welcoming her into the family.

“I told him that he was going to have to figure something else out because that day is about my future husband and me and that we were spending a ton of money for our special day. His argument was that it would be a ‘five-minute thing’ and then it would go back to being my day.”

She continued: “My dad loves being the centre of attention so I know that all he would talk about the rest of the night would be the proposal, and I know my family would be gossiping about it because of how recent it has been since my mum passed. When people think back to my wedding, I don’t want them to just remember my dad’s proposal.

“I told him that especially because he is not offering to contribute to the wedding, it was completely out of the question. I explained that I really think his girlfriend would be uncomfortable with all of that attention on her too.”

The following day, the bride’s dad tried to “guilt trip” her for saying no, telling her he was disappointed she didn’t want to be involved in something “so special.” She’s now wondering whether she should have just let him go ahead and propose, and has reached out to fellow Reddit users for advice.

One person said: “Honey, he wants to bum your fancy location and professional photographer to capture his moment! He’s wanting to ride your coattails and snatch your spotlight. Saying ‘no’ once is enough, the fact he keeps pushing makes me think he’ll try it anyways.

“It’s not a five-minute thing, it’s everyone for the rest of the night coming and congratulating them. He’s being ridiculous I wouldn’t blame you if you want to be cold with him until he knocks it off.”

Another advised: “Assign someone to keep an eye on him and hustle him to the door if he even tries to grab a microphone. And you might want to consider skipping the bouquet toss altogether… it’s an outdated tradition anyway.”

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