Dad slammed after forcing daughter to cook for him to fulfil ‘traditional role’

A daughter was fuming with her dad after he made her cook for a guest he invited over because he believes it’s her ‘role in the family’ to help out with such tasks

A dad has come under fire after he admitted he made his daughter cook dinner for a guest he invited over after his wife felt too ‘nauseous’ to make food for them – but he thought he’d done nothing wrong, stating ‘we just follow a tradition that advocates for certain roles within the family’.

The man took to Reddit’s ‘Am I the a**hole’ forum to explain that his daughter ‘is a college student who lives in my house rent-free’. He said she’s given ‘tasks’ as a ‘form of payment’ to her parents and these include ‘cooking, cleaning and watching over her little sister occasionally’.

But he really upset his daughter when he made her cook dinner for him and a guest, especially when he threatened she’d ‘suffer consequences’ if she didn’t do it.

He wrote: “Am I an a**hole for making my daughter cook dinner for my friends and I?

“So basically my daughter (21F) is a college student who lives in my house rent-free. She’s given a few tasks to take care of as her form of payment. Those things include cooking, cleaning, and watching over her little sister occasionally when my wife and I go out somewhere.

“A few days ago I invited my friends over for dinner. My wife was going to cook up something for us as she usually does but unfortunately, the day before they were to arrive she was feeling a bit nauseous, but told me it would probably go away the next day (it didn’t).

“My wife told me the next day she felt even worse. I didn’t want to make my sick wife cook dinner, so I asked my daughter who was free at the time if she could do the cooking instead. She got an attitude with me and said I should just order takeout.

“Where I’m from it’s rude to invite a guest over for dinner and feed them fast food. I told her we made an agreement that she had to abide to and if she didn’t fulfill it she would suffer consequences.

“We went back and forth for a little bit to which she eventually said fine and made dinner for us. But ever since then she’s been avoiding me and gives me short answers when I try to spark a conversation with her.

“I understand asking her to cook dinner for my friends out of the blue is what made her upset and her anger is somewhat justified. But at the same time, we made an agreement that she has to fulfill, so I’m conflicted about if I was entirely wrong for asking her to cook for us.

“I do not view my wife and daughter as servants who are beneath me. We just follow a tradition that advocates for certain roles within the family.”

In the comments, the dad was slammed for expecting his 21-year-old daughter to cook for him with little to no notice, and people were quick to ask why he couldn’t cook for himself.

One wrote: “You’re an a**hole for a few reasons. You shouldn’t invite people over to a home where someone is sick and should cancel the event. Why are you incapable of cooking? Your daughter isn’t your servant just because she’s not paying to live with you. It’s gross that you treat her like she is.”

Someone added to the previous comment: “Also, isn’t it kind of standard to support your children while they are getting an education? You’re the a**hole, the fact that you’re doing a basic thing for your child (not asking rent) doesn’t entitle you to treat her like an unpaid servant.”

Another fumed: “And ‘there will be consequences’. What does that mean? Are you going to ground your 21-year-old? Kick her out? I mean, you can’t kick her out, you obviously can’t cook.

“What are your wife’s thoughts on all of this or is she still super sick and unaware of what kind of b******* you’re on? You’re the a**hole, of course.”

One Redditor agreed that the night should’ve been cancelled, writing: “She didn’t invite any of these people over nor did you even involve her in a discussion you just told her to jump.

“The night should have been cancelled the moment your wife said she said she was sick. That’s the solution here. Not ‘how can I demand and then threaten my daughter into doing what I want even though I’m an adult? I just don’t feel like I should have to cook this one time for my own guests’.”

Do you think the dad should’ve approached this in a different way? Let us know in the comments.