‘I caught husband sending flirty texts to another woman with sick Christmas innuendos’

A woman was left devastated after finding inappropriate texts from her husband to another woman – and she also noticed he’d been slating her and their kids

When you’re married or in a relationship, maintaining friendships with others is so important. You and your partner share everything, but it’s nice to have pals that you can text, and have a laugh with.

But if your partner was sending someone they used to work with flirty texts, it would probably feel like more than just a friendship – especially if one of the texts read ‘I’d like to unwrap you for Christmas’.

One woman took to Mumsnet to explain what had happened and the story her husband was telling her, but people immediately urged her to ditch him – especially with the way he’d lied about their history together.

She wrote: “My husband has a friend who he used to work with who he hasn’t seen for years. They’ve stayed in touch and I’ve never had a problem with this. He had said in the past that nothing had ever happened between them but he had wanted it to. (When I confronted him about it he admitted they had kissed before).

“Recently, I found texts between the two of them that I feel were improper between friends. E.g. I’d like to unwrap you for Xmas, I love your t*** etc…he’s also said unkind things about me and our children and some other family members.

“She has sent him self-indulgent, overly filtered selfies. He has sent her pictures of cards that he has kept that she sent him almost 20 years ago and notes that she had sent him. He claims that it is all an ‘in joke’ between them from when they worked together and that there is nothing romantic between them.

“I’m failing to believe this. Am I being unreasonable by not accepting what he is telling me? Any advice and opinions would be gratefully received as I’m going out of my mind with it all.”

People were horrified at the husband’s behaviour, pointing out that the texts were completely unacceptable, and did not feel like it was banter between friends.

One wrote: “Goodness me, how cruel and disrespectful. I’m so sorry that you find yourself in this situation, original poster. Get rid of him, you are worth far more.”

Another fumed: “He doesn’t care about you and your family enough. He’s trying to have an affair.”

“‘I love your t***’ isn’t flirty. He’s either s******* her, or trying to. Bin”, someone else raged.

“He’d be gone if I were you. He clearly fancies her and it’s totally disrespectful to you. Get rid”, a Mumsnetter suggested.

What would you do if you found these texts? Let us know in the comments.