Man refuses to attend his sister’s wedding unless he’s allowed a plus one

A man says he’s refusing to attend his sister’s wedding after a bad date with one of her friends led to him losing his plus one privileges. Now his family is “livid” at him

A young man claims his family is now “livid” at him for refusing to attend his own sister’s wedding, but feels he is being treated unfairly. His right to a plus one was revoked after a brief flirtation with one of his sister’s friends, which ended disastrously. According to this 26-year-old man, he was attracted to this friend, whose name is Zoe, after meeting her at his sister’s engagement party, but his sister warned him away, stressing he “wasn’t her type.”

Apparently ignoring this advice, he asked for Zoe’s number and they ended up going out on two dates. However, it soon became clear they didn’t have much in common. He learned she was a virgin who didn’t drink, being “very religious”, and felt they just had overall “very different lifestyles and goals.”

After the second date, he decided to let things “fizzle out”, but ended up sending a late-night text after getting drunk, asking her if she wanted to come over to his, a message he admits was “stupid.” She didn’t respond, and they never spoke again.

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One year on and his sister is now refusing to allow him to bring a plus one to her upcoming wedding because of the awkward incident with Zoe.

Taking to Reddit, where he goes by the username u/botttlogger, the man fumed: “I demanded to know why. She said she and Zoe talked and it was her decision so I needed to get over it. I asked if Zoe was getting a plus one and she said yes.

“I said how unfair that was. And how I was planning to take a week off work, spend hundreds on clothes, gifts, hotel, and a plane ticket to see her get married. And she is giving me a solo invite in return? She told me to get over it. So I told her to have a great wedding then. She tried arguing but I told her I was done and hung up.”

He continued: “Well then came the barrage of calls. My mum especially is livid. Saying she wants her whole family in attendance. I told her what was going on. She said yes my sister is out of line but also it is her place to be. So I needed to suck it up for one week. I said that I wasn’t spending close to a thousand dollars to be treated differently.”

His family members are still pleading with him to reconsider, but he’s standing firm. Now he’s reached out to fellow Reddit users to ask their opinion on the matter.

One person wrote: “While it’s her wedding and she can set the rules. You’re free to attend or not attend at your leisure. She has mandated that you are to be treated differently and you need to suck it up. You’ve told her that won’t do and are not attending.

“Family can stuff it. Especially when you have to go out of pocket. I wouldn’t go even if they changed their mind on the plus one. Play the hand out, send a nice gift and a card.”

Another commented: “She’s out of line and seems to want to punish you or something, which is rather petty. I mean, you weren’t very considerate of Zoe’s feelings but that doesn’t mean your sister gets to go all bridezilla on you over it.”

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